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What to do I just don't know..............

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shedevil · 04/09/2006 21:39

Hi, pretty new to MN (about a week now) and would like some opinions/advice.

We live in a rented house (housing association), in the middle of nowhere - lovely and quiet, big house...but we're itching to get back nearer our local town for many reasons, mainly because our families are all at close hand and the amount of money we're spending on petrol going to work/see family & friends everyday etc.

I've been offered an exchange to a house in the town, she wants to be in countryside. Its a fairly nice area and the house is gorgeous. However the neighbours looked a bit dodgy and according to DH's friend they've been noisy and disruptive in the past.

So now I don't know what to do. Stay where I am and be skint and far away from everyone or go for it and risk making a big mistake. I'm quite a timid person so i'm not the type to knock on their door if things get too bad.

Anyone had a problem with neighbours before or any advice they can give me? I'd much appreciate it!

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Beauregard · 04/09/2006 21:47

Be very wary
Having bad neighbours has to be the worst thing ,ive had experience of them and it aint nice.

fattiemumma · 04/09/2006 21:47

your house sounds lovely, wait a while longer and i am sure that someone will come forward with a different house for you to exchange with.

nightamre neighbours are such a stressfull thing to deal with and quite frankly i am sure you would rather not.

don't jump from a nice quiet home to a battle ground.....hold on for something better.

FrannyandZooey · 04/09/2006 21:50

I have no idea about your dilemma, sorry, but I just wanted to tell you I originally read your name as

shed evil

wheresmyfroggy · 04/09/2006 21:53

We've had bad neighbours before and it is terrible, not a risk worth taking imo (smile)

Anyway, welcome to mumsnet (grin)

hovely · 04/09/2006 22:15

what about discreetly checking out the neighbours some unexpected times, eg walk up the road at 9.30pm, find out what you can hear?
could be just a bad patch that is all over now

Janbo25 · 04/09/2006 22:19

I would probably stay where you are, I am a Housing Officer and unfortunately know how long it takes to take action on anti social behaviour despite how unpleasant it is for the neighbours, also I find that people who are wanting to exchange from a nice property may have something to hide like the neighbours!!

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shedevil · 04/09/2006 22:20

LOL f&z maybe I should change my name 'shed-evil'

Thanks all for your words of support. I'd have to be very discreet if I went for a walk as its a cul-de-sac so couldn't loiter! But i'd thought about asking my mum to go cos we live too far away and son would be in bed. Am hoping its a bad patch hovely as the house was absolutely gorgeous, but not sure i'm willing to risk it after what everyone's said about bad neighbours in the thread.

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shedevil · 04/09/2006 22:25

Thanks janbo, I was wondering is there any way I can find out whether any complaints have been made against the people living next door through the housing association (its a different one to the one i'm with now).

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Flossam · 04/09/2006 22:25

I would wait. The right house will come along and you will have no qualms.

Rhubarb · 04/09/2006 22:32

Even if complaints haven't been made it could be that the neighbours are too scared to complain. And are you sure your friends just want to move to be in the country - not to escape from their neighbours for example?

It's a bad move. When you live with shite neighbours it takes over your whole life and no matter how lovely the house, you no longer feel safe there, it is no longer welcoming, you'd rather go anywhere than back home. Trust me, all the aggro you could get would just cancel out the benefits. I would say a firm no and put up with what you have for the time being.

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shedevil · 04/09/2006 22:40

The more I think about it the more I think staying here is the right thing to do. I might put an advert in my local paper and see if anyone rings. We've lived in the middle of town (before son was born) and that was really noisy, shouting drunks etc so I know its not nice but this is a bit different; probably will be worse.

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wartywarthog · 04/09/2006 23:18

horrible neighbours are a real nightmare, and will make a beautiful home into a prison, not a haven.

themoon66 · 05/09/2006 00:01

horrible neighbours?? nothing worse. Stay where you are for a while longer. That's my opinion anyway.

Janbo25 · 06/09/2006 16:07

we can't say really, however it may be worth ringing the hsg association and ask to speak to the relevant hsg officer and ask jsut see what they say you can sometimes get a feel for things just by the tone of there voice.

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shedevil · 06/09/2006 20:47

Thanks janbo will give it a try!

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Janbo25 · 07/09/2006 08:53

no problem let us know how you get on x

Twiglett · 07/09/2006 08:56

bad neighbours can destroy your life

don't do it

hold on for another swap

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