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What can I do to stop this happening?

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waterfalls · 31/08/2006 22:10

My sister has 3 children, the 2 youngest are the children of a partner she broke up with a couple of weeks ago. She has announced she is going to hand over her middle child (3yrs) to live with his father, this bothers me greatly as he is terribly moody, sometimes violent and smokes drugs every evening. He is a severe diabetic and apparently lashes out when his sugar levels drop.
I remember when his firt was born, he lashed out, threw my sister, her daughter and his own 2 week ols son out of the house, and literally boarded up the door with planks of wood.
I dont get on with my sister, since I reported her to social services 4 years ago for neglecting her daughter, so she wont take any advice from me. How can I stop this happening, or what can I do about it if she goes ahead and hands him over?

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CountTo10 · 31/08/2006 22:13

God what a situation. I don't envy you at all and you have my full sympathy on this. Me personally I'd go back to social services and explain your concerns. Is there anyone else in the family that can support you on this?

MoreTeaAnyone · 31/08/2006 22:13

Is there someone in the family who could talk to your sis?

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waterfalls · 31/08/2006 22:18

I have another sister, who we are both close too, she has had a word with her, told her she was disgusted with this decision, but my sister is very stubbon and wont budge.

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MoreTeaAnyone · 31/08/2006 22:19

Would it be over kill to inform SW about your worries? Even if they keep an eye on the situation.

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waterfalls · 31/08/2006 22:19

My mum lives abroad, I will contact her tomorrow, she will not be happy about this, and hopefully she will call her and try and nock some sense into her.

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waterfalls · 31/08/2006 22:21

If she goes ahead and does it, then I will inform SS without a doubt, but I am hoping she will change her mind.

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Bucketsofdinosaurs · 31/08/2006 22:24

Is she doing it because she feels she can't cope maybe? Maybe she's desperate and he's got her over a barrel. Would one of you be prepared to offer him a home or offer her help some other way?

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waterfalls · 31/08/2006 22:30

She does say he is a naughty child, my sister comes across as a good parent, but her best talend is decieting (sp) people, I have never been convinced of her act, as she also comes across as snobbish, but often slips up and lets her true colours show. The father is certainly not the type to demand his children, and my sister could'nt be put over a barrell by anybody.

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CountTo10 · 31/08/2006 22:33

Would you consider taking him in?

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waterfalls · 31/08/2006 22:38

If it came down to it I would, but I just dont have the room, with 3 children of my own, one of which is SN, from what I can gather she wants him gone on a permanant basis.

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magnolia1 · 31/08/2006 22:41

To seperate a 3 year old from siblings sounds so terribly sad If your relationship is not good with your sister and she won't listen to you could you try to build bridges at all. Maybe jst to offer support so she doesn't feel she has to let her Ex have one of the children?

CountTo10 · 31/08/2006 22:41

Then I'd defo discuss it with other family members and talk to her about it to try and get to the root of whats making her consider something as drastic

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