Relocation again!!!! Do we do it????

[Quackers]

Would appreciate some varied and opinionated comments from my fellow wise mumsnetters!!!

We moved 2 years ago from London to the Isle of Man - big difference I know! We wanted a more laid back life style and beaches, views etc and my Mum and Dad live here, although they would consider a move back if we did. We now have £100k equity in the house and have been getting itchy feet and know we could move to where we originally from in Cheshire and buy a similar house but cheaper mortgage. The dilema is my DD is settled here and goes to school in September and I have a new baby due in July!!!! I feel a little stifled here, not a lot to do on this island really and I can't persue the job I would like to do, but that is very low priority at the moment. But people are lovely and our house is great. Please don't take this as a selfish thing. We are going to face a lot of hardship money wise by staying as I finish work on Friday and our mortgage will barely be covered. The biggest thing holding us back is uprooting my DD and starting her at school as soon as we move, somewhere she doesn't know. The rest of our family live in Cheshire, including my sister who will have children soon anyway.
Anyone experienced a similar dilema before???

Thanks in advance for reading my 'plight' !!
Qxxx
So, do you move to where you have a little spare money but uproot DD or stay where we are with her current friends and lifestyle that she enjoys and go to school where she knows.

I would have said, if you are going to do it, now would be the ideal time before your dd starts school. Will always be harder once she has established herself in a class with friends. Just my initial thought. Am sure you will get better advice than mine.

Yeah, if your thinking about it, now seems the time, rather than letting her start and then uprooting.

Yes come North, then I might get to meet you!

Seriously though, you might find you need a bit more support with your 2nd on the way and having your sisters kids around would be good.

I made a decision to come home to Newcastle after about 10 yrs in London to start a family.

well do you have to get jobs? maybe it would be worth looking for jobs first. But if you want to move do it!! you only live once

Quacks, how are you doing? Can't believe you're this far along aready!!

I would prob make the move - esp if your sister is there and your dd hasn't started school yet. Kids adapt well and it sounds like a good chance to move 'now'. Exciting times ahead for you and Mr Quackers and your little dd. Thinking of you

Thanks all, not one of you said no stay on your Island and fester! No seriously, it;s a tough one. I'd need to change hospitals etcc. no biggie, but poor DD has had more houses than hot dinners! My sis hasn't got kids yet but she will in the next couple of years or so. That would be a bonus. It's a tax haven here, so I'd be back to a Tony Blair government - can't have it all though can I!

Will be chatting to Mr Quackers. He can move jobs, but he does like where he is, but would move if necessary.
Lazyeye, you;re sweet!
Hana, how's it going! Thanks too for your thoughts!
Thanks all again for taking trouble to read!!

Any other comments much appreciated! Especially both sides of the coin!!!

We've moved quite a bit, Quackers, and really, the best stability your dd has is you! She'll cope with moving because you, not her surroundings, are the most important thing in her life.

I would also move now, before she has started school. Plus like eveyone else said, it will be nice to live by your sister and eventually her kids too. Plus having extra money will mean you get to do more things too.

Good luck

We moved when I was 6 and then again when I was 9, both times to places where we didn't know anyone and had no family. For me, moving at 6 was a breeze, even though I had started school and liked it, moving at 9 was a complete bloody nightmare- I had good friends and knew I would never see them again. I would say if there's a fighting chance that you will move anyway (which sounds quite likely), sooner would be better than later. This is purely from your dd's point of view though

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Your dd is so young she will be able to make new friends.

Having your family around you is a very good thing and because you are even posting this thread it seems that moving is definetely on your mind...(btw have a friend in the Isle of Wight and she moved back there after years of moving around with dh's job, but she had about 8 brothers and sisters living there...it was where she was brought up) IOW is a bit out of reach for people to visit(ferries etc) so like everyone else has suggested I'd be off and living near to family...Good luck

Thankyou all. DH has come home and said his company could be offering a pay rise - good timing!. Ths could certainly chnge circumstances. I do have my Mum and Dad here, hope I didn't forget to say that! DD would miss them terribly. Despite the financial benefit of moving and releasing equity, we do have family here too and do love our house and nearby beach. So, it looks like it all hangs on the pay rise then!!
I really appreciate all comments, it so helps to be able to bash this out!!!!
Qxx