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[kiskidee]

Thank you for being such an ardent supporter of co-sleeping and posting all the links on sleep research.

Thank you to the person who posted the one to bawlingbabies blogspot.

I just spent a week in Cyprus with a friend who sleep-trained her son at 9 months. Our last night there was our wedding anniversary and she volunteered to babysit so we could go for a meal. I told her what to do if my 16 mo old DD woke up before we got back.

When we got back, she lectured us on how our DD needed to learn how to 'soothe herself back to sleep'.

Being in her house, i managed to be diplomatic and informative about my sleeping choices without insulting her choices. (i think) I am sure she thinks we are wrecking our dd's future and she will end up some kind of co-dependent.

I walked off without a shadow of a doubt that i still want dd in bed with me at night.

DH said in the privacy of our bedroom, "That is the biggest load of self-righteous bullshit I have heard in a long time! I don't know how you (of all people kind of thing) kept your cool."

off to polish my halo now.

ps: dh also loves your homemade baked beans.

I second that thank you for the bawling babies blog. I've passed it on to friends who are in the same situation and they all say thanks too!!!

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anyone know if Franny is away?

What is the bawling babies blog? Missed that.

bawling babies a really good read if indecisive and have a baby who doesn't 'sleep through'.

Thanks Kiskidee, I have a 17mth old who has never slept through the night. But I am way past the cc dilemma - never gonna happen!

While I am here may I just add a thank you for treasure basket info too

Here is a quote from one of the articles on the bawling babies link:

"Normal, healthy, breastfed and co-sleeping children do not sleep "through the night" (say 7-9 hours at a stretch) until they are 3-4 years old, and no longer need night nursing. I repeat -- this is NORMAL and HEALTHY."

Aaaahhhh....music to my ears. You are never told this and it's such a shame.

Her PC is broke she'll be back soon

thanks welshie.

She has been online again tonight, but has gone incognito again

Oh wow, what a lovely post kiskidee, and I am so glad if anything I've said has helped you. I don't know how you kept your cool in that emotive situation either, I would probably not have been able to

I have not seen the bawlingbabies blog myself so I will hunt that out for future reference. I really appreciate you posting like this and thanks to Tatties for directing me to the thread

you finally surfaced. your passion for cosleeping has rubbed off on me. there is nothing specific you said that makes it so. just your confidence about doing it and reasoned explanations why it is the right thing for you. the blog i mentioned erased any doubts that i was doing the right thing. though i grew up in the caribbean where people don't have hangups about cosleeping but try to 'copy' western ways if they have the money to do so.

a friend of like minds who i shared my tale with sent me the response which i just have to steal and share:

"No point in trying to "educate" people who's kids are already past your stage. Bite your tongue to keep the peace (and friendship!). It's tricky to defend yourself against the ignorance of the "western worlds" newfangled - "cry it out and strap them into whatever bouncer, highchair, buggy, pram to train the (confused) infant to be independent before it's able to walk, toilet or fix a sandwich itself!".