Do you think I'm awful for not being interested in siblings I have never met?

[waterfalls]

I have

2 half brothers I have never met (older)
3 half sisters I have never met (older)
3 sisters I have not seen since I was 12ish (younger than me) apart from 1 who I breifly hired where I worked, then sacked her for stealing

I am probably a bit curious, but not overly bothered at all, 4 of my sisters live in the same town, no idea where the other 4 are.

We all have the same father btw.

No I don't think you're awful at all..maybe because one of your sisters has put you off by stealing from yu?

Do you have any other brothers or sisters you arin touch with?

Please excuse typo's...I'm slightly pi$$ed

Yes I have one full sister, and another half sister {same mum) that I have contact with.
The reason I am not interested is they are all my dads kids, and he is one evil twisted man, the less I have to do with his blood the better, I know it does'nt mean they are all the same (I have his blod after all) but I just could'nd be bothered to find out.

I have two half brothers. I couldn't get in contact with them without being in contact with my father which I do not want. So I sacrificice that for the avoidance of having anything to do with my father IYSWIM.

Ahh the reason I asked about any other siblings is that maybe you had them and didn't think you were missing out on anything by getting to know your other half brothers/half sisters/other sisters if that makes sense??

It's shocking btw that she stole from you... I would be gutted if that happened to me.

I'm sorry that you feel that way about your dad and his side of the family xx

Flossam, you understand where I'm coming from then, though 3 of my siblings have no contact with my father either, in fact one of them was bought up by another man from an early age, who she believes is her father, she has no idea of her real family history.................blimey my family is so complicated even I get confused

Maddison
should clarify, she did'nt steal from me, I hired her as a chambermaid in a hotel, and she stole from a guest (caught red handed)

Ah right, read it wrong sorry. I'll put it down to my drunken state

lol

The thing is though, do you feel awful about it. If not then i wouldn't worry

No I dont feel awful about it, just wondered whether I was being heartless, not sure what I will do if any of them try to contact me, it could be very awkward because of the history, things they dont know about thier dad that would turn thier world upside down, because if the time comes I wont keep quiet and protect him.

Anyway thanks for the natter you drunken slob

T's okay I've enjoyed talking

And just for the record I don't drink that often (hence it only taking 4 bottles of wkd to get me like this!)

hee hee

I have two half brothers by my father....I have met them, and did have contact for a while with both, but one I haven't seen in over 8yrs, the other for 3, and to be honest I have no desire to see them, and no regrets over not seeing them either.

we may have shared genetics, but that is all, and it isn't enough IMO, to go find them and have a relationship with them (IYGWIM?).

I feel sometimes we all put too much on ourselves.....there is no need to see them if it isn't going to enhance your life in some way.

Shared blood isn't a reason to see each other....a shared history and a desire to know someone is more important....and plus, to be honest, family is often the last people to spend time with. friends are more important I am finding, not least because we are friends because we want to be, rather than out of misplaced (oh god.....can't find the word in my head now.....misplaced loyalties is the closest to it, but the actual word I want has escaped me....sorry...I hope you get what I am trying to say tho)

Psychomum I think you've hit the nail on the head about enhancing lives, friends being more important and kind of obligation because it's family. I love your posts

psychomum5, I know what you mean, blood is'nt always thicker

maddison and waterfalls, thankyou.

I like to be helpful

seriously tho....unless you feel a great need to see them, then don't.

or, to put it another way (a slightly morbid one tho, but one which was said to me which made me re-evaluate my feelings)....

should you find tomorrow that you had hours to live and you were to name the biggest regret, if your answer would be that you never got to know them then you should go find them....if you wouldn't even give them a thought, then that is the right way to live it now.

I hope you understand that....I am not sure if I have written it the way I should say it....am going fuzzy now on my tabs!

ao the 3 sisters you saw when you were 12 - they are half sisters too?

nappyaddict
Yes they are half sisters too, I lived with them, until I managed to buck up the courage to run away and find my mum, the youngest of those 3 at the time was only a baby, and the other two were 2 & 4 years old.

In answer to op, not at all. I have three, two sisters and a brother which I have never met, and honestly have no interest in meeting. My parents split when I was 3 months old, and my mum remarried my lovely 'dad'. They had two more kids who are my sister and brother. I know as far as biology is concerned, these other three are the same to me as my sister and brother, but to me it is miles apart. My father's youngest daughter contacted me when I had not long had ds1. She was 15 and thought it was cool to have a 'sister' living in London (all are Australian). Got an email from my father after she had made contact with me asking if it was alright! Thing is, it wasn't. I had not spoken with my father for ten years, and was in the midst of PND. So having to be some sort of penpal to a 15 year old was not what I was interested in! Sorry for rambling, but I don't believe because we are related that there is any sort of connection (though happen to know the eldest daughter looks eerily like me!)