Hi. Just looking to see if maybe I'm being unreasonable or if the way I'm feeling is justified...
Brief background - in January 2012 I left my husband of 12 years for another woman. He was an alcoholic who was at times violent and I was miserable for most of those married years. I knew I wanted to end it for good after he abused me sexually on our 10th wedding anniversary.
So in December 2012 I met a girl that works in my local shop. We exchanged numbers and it went from there. I was the happiest I've ever been. She really has changed my life for the better. But there's always been one problem... Her so called best mate. There are rumours that they once had a fling. She causes so many problems between us. She is jealous and doesn't like seeing us happy. About a month ago my girlfriend promised that she would have no more contact with her and promised if she heard anything from her she would tell me and I would do the same.
I noticed she was being secretive with her mobile and hadn't been her usual self for a couple of days... Then I found out yesterday that she has sent her 27 texts over the last 2 days (her mobile contract in my name)... I gave her the chance to be honest and asked if she'd heard anything from her, she said no. I said are you sure? No calls or texts? She said she promised no. So I said I knew she was lying so she admitted she had sent a couple. I told her it was nearly 30 messages and she just kicked off that I had been stalking her.
This happened last summer - she promised the best mate was out of her life for good... Then I found out they send an average of 3,600 texts to each other a month!! I was devastated - it's not a normal friendship. And with the possibility that they had a fling in the past, their friendship makes me feel so uneasy. The mate had a melt down when she found out we were moving in together. She's been slagging me off to everyone where my girlfriend works saying I've ruined her life and how she can't bear to call me by my name.
Finding out they are in contact again has really upset me. I haven't slept and I can't get it out of my mind.
Any advice would be much appreciated :-( xx thank you