ONEOF3 could you advise me to please

[albatros]

Hi I've just seen your advice to Scoobydoo I did not want to hijack that thread as her situation is alot more urgent than mine. I am currently living in a 2 bed 2nd floor housing assoc. flat and on the transfer list for a house with what used to be the council but is now a different housing assoc. to the one I am with. I have breifly been in the top ten of people waiting to be housed but have soon dropped back out. The housing people have been very friendly and have all but said that unless I get extra points on medical grounds it is unlikely I will get a house . They have offered me the forms and told me that I should think over wether I have any health issues carefully
I do not want to go to the doctor with any illnesses I do not have or depression - though a friend did and got rehoused, but is there any way I can get extra points without playing the system or having another child Your advice would be much appricated

Bumping the right one this time

bump for you too

The only way forward i can see from your situation is to go to the doctors i know you dont want to cheat but many people in these situation do & this is what your up against which makes it harder for you.

Thanks Scoobydoooo I know that many other people jump lists like this but I cannot do it. My Dr was really good to me after the birth of dd2 when I suffered PND I cannot look him in the eye and tell him I am depressed when I know I am not.
I had hoped that ONEOF3 would tell me that if I rang everyday and kept pestering them that I might get an extra point or two

Lol i know what you mean because i have PND now & there is no way i could go to my doctor & lie i HATE liars & can not lie to save my life, i would say keep pestering i know these councils say dont pester because it wont get you anywhere but it will sure keep your name in there mind...dont think it will give you any extra points though..

The frustrating thing is in my area if you get in the top 10 you are sent details of properties available and asked if you are interested in them. I have been sent details of 7 properties 6 of which I said yes to, but other people infront of me on the list also said yes and got the house (which in my mind I had already started decorating).
I have just decorated my dd's room, which I have put off for a year hoping to be rehoused. If I spend loads of money and redecorate the whole flat maybe then the letter will arrive

That would be very frustrating, maybe decorating would be the idea because this is what happens isnt it, when your least expecting it that letter drops on the door step, goodluck anyway & keep bumping this thread x

What is your reason for wanting a transfer??

I want a garden for me and the kids, the flat has been great it is big enough for us but I really want a garden
dd1 is 5 dd2 is 3 The stairs were hard when they were younger but not such a problem now (except when I do a big shop). It's simple things like having to take them down 2 flights of stairs to hang the washing out / get it in etc.
I used to be a gardener and would love a garden for myself but also for the kids to have a playhouse paddling pool and things like that.

I think from what you say the housing assoc would like to rehouse you but there hands are tied as you have no medical or other priority need.
I take it that you would be moving to a similar sized house. So think about it this way - you have served your time in the flat climbing 2 flights of stairs with 2 small children and now it is your turn to have a house with a garden.
If you want this to happen then you have to help the housing assoc to help you.
How does being stuck in the flat 2 flights up during the summer months affect you or the kids??
Would you all benefit if you were able to have access to a garden - do any of your kids have a health problem are they hyper active?? Would having a garden improve the quality of you and your kids lives?
You just have to approach this from a different angle and remember if you move then you are freeing up a flat for someone else who is on the waiting list at the moment and is desperate to be rehoused.
Stop feeling so guilty about going after what you want.
Best of luck!

albatros did my last posting make sense??

Thanks ONEOF3 yes what you say makes sense but I still have difficulty in seeing any extra points. I would get fed up being in the flat for the summer but we go out every day, this can be a drain finacally and physically. I usually do a picnic or we go out in the morning home for lunch then back out in the afternoon. I am trying not to let them miss out on being outside. My mum and dad have a large garden and we do go there quite often, but it is not a child friendly place (pond, eye height canes, etc) and I have to supervise them all the time.
If anything my kids get out alot more than some of my friends who have gardens as the back door is not open for them to run in and out of IYSWIM
I think the only way is to get medical points but I cannot lie about how I feel. Maybe a badback Seriously though I will talk to my HV and see if she has any thoughts on the quality of life for the children. Can HV get you medical points or does it have to come through the DR I really don't want to waste his time as I feel I have done that enough already

Yes HV can get medical points ( in my experience ) Can you get HV to say how draining physically you find it getting 2 small children up and down stairs several times a day particularly when you also have shopping kids bikes etc etc.
I dont think you are lying or even bending the truth - its fact - I know because I have been in your shoes and I know the huge difference a garden made to me.
I do believe that that hsg assoc would not have given you the medical forms if they were not trying to help you - unfortunately they cannot fill them out for you or tell you what to put on them.
What do you have to lose by talking to your HV and having a go ??
Best of Luck

Thanks ONEOF3 I will see my HV asap

I spoke to my H.V who has written a great letter to the council, stressing how important a garden is to kids development and how I have to keep them quiet in the mornings as they are early risers, not being able to jump about and bounce balls etc. I will give the council until Monday to process it then will go and see if it has made any difference. Fingers crossed.
Thankyou for your advice.

thats good news my fingers are crossed for you too
ps changed my name I was ONEOF3

I recieved a Health / Disability assesment form through the post after my earlier MN post. I called the council to see if my HV letter had made any difference as I assumed this was sent out in response to my HV letter. Unfortunatly I do not get any more points unless I qualify under their H / D assesment so I'm back to waiting to move up the list
It was worth a go though
I'm back to number 13 so I might make it into the top 10 again soon, and get teased by the houses available that others snap up first.

Love the new name BTW