Advice Needed Please

[Quootiepie]

Hiya...
My FIL died last week and we didnt get on at all. Ive now kinda put it behind me and am going to MILs etc. like "normal". Thing is, MIL wants a photo of my DS in the coffin with FIL... and Im not sure what to do. I dont want to upset her, or be selfish or mean, but I dont think im comfortable with it... please give any advice... thanks x

OH thats a tough one....i think I would let her do it, he was your DS's grandad and even though you didnt get on with him, thats not really the issue...its not going to do any harm to you or your DS is it?

Its your decision though and if you really don't want to - don't. What does DH think?

I read this wrong the first time and thought you meant that she wants a picture of your DS actually sitting in the coffin with his GF. Which would be a no-no in my book.

But as it's a photo she's after I'd say let her do it. No harm to anyone.

its just im abit funny like that - knowing theres a photo of DS next to a dead body... and rotting away...

To be honest, i'd thought about the same thing when my grandad passed away. I would have liked to have put a picture of my ds in the casket with him as he doted on him, but then I had strange thoughts about the picture being burnt and got too supersticious.

if you're not comfortable with it then I would say no because you cant take it back once its done.

Hi Q.Good to see you.
I don't think there is any harm in putting a photo in.At the end of the day he was still his grandad.And it is just a photo.
My grandma had a pictures of all the family in with her when she was cremated.