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If your children attend a Church school

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earlgrey · 15/08/2006 13:12

Do you feel obliged to take them every Sunday, even though you're not particularly religious yourself?

DDs want to go, I want a lie-in, but feel I'm depriving them of what they're learning and what they're being taught to believe in if I don't take them.

Over the summer holidays there's no children's Liturgy, so I've managed to get away with it. I'm such a rotten Catholic.

Just wondered what you'd do.

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tortoiseshell · 15/08/2006 13:13

We do go every Sunday, but it's a bit different for us as we both actually work for the Church on a Sunday! But the kids do truly have a great time at Sunday School, and love going, and if we ever have a week off and don't take them, then they get really annoyed!

MaloryFascinatorTowers · 15/08/2006 13:13

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frogs · 15/08/2006 13:18

I send them to a church school because we go to Mass regularly, rather than vice versa, iyswim. We don't go to Children's Mass though, as that requires a 9.30am turnout, which is quite beyond me on a Sunday morning. So they have to pass up the chance of messing about with their classmates, as we go to Mass at 11, getting back neatly in time to make Sunday lunch.

Aren't there any Masses at other times that might be more convenient for you?

Marina · 15/08/2006 13:21

earlgrey, does your church not have Saturday evening mass? I always felt quite envious of that option I must say.
And as we don't get a lie-in anyway on a Sunday we can usually be found at church. Yes, it can be a hassle getting everyone out of the door in a presentable manner in time (dh always last btw) but that hour in the week is worth all the effort.

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earlgrey · 15/08/2006 13:22

Malory, no, don't leave!!!

I do take them, but have just allowed myself a bit of a 3 week holiday. The fact that I'm not particularly religious myself hasn't stopped me from asking Fr McNab if he can confirm me.

And I do the church flowers once a month.

It's just that ...well... some Sundays my heart's not really in it. Does your heart really need to be in Church once a week, to mean it?

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Quootiepie · 15/08/2006 13:22

Hiya... Im sending DS to a church school, like Frogs, because I go to mass etc. If I cant make Sunday mornings, I go Saturday evening or to one of the weekday Masses. Our church has one mass ever day of the week, and the churches nearby have masses at staggered times so everyone has a chance to attend.

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earlgrey · 15/08/2006 13:24

Marina, yes, there is a Saturday Mass, but the thing the love (and keeps them keen) is the Children's Liturgy. It would be an awfully long time for them in Church without it.

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Quootiepie · 15/08/2006 13:26

can you not do lie ins on Saturday instead? or go to a later Sunday mass maybe? or every other week?

acnebride · 15/08/2006 13:28

If there's a children's liturgy maybe you could do a rota with another set of parents?

I seem to be posting this on a lot of threads atm - I think it's on my mind as we need to bump up our babysitting circle

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earlgrey · 15/08/2006 13:32

LOL AB.

I wouldn't - despite having gone to two convent schools - have a clue

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chopsolata · 15/08/2006 13:36

i try but at the moment I just cant face going to Mass (personal reasons) dd doesnt mind, we dont go to her school parish church anyway

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earlgrey · 15/08/2006 13:40

Does anyone know why Malory's on the turn, because she has some good and useful things to say? Has someon riled her?

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earlgrey · 15/08/2006 13:40

someone, even, sorry.

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earlgrey · 15/08/2006 13:41

chops, would it be too personal a question to ask why?

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Tortington · 15/08/2006 13:45

take them to sat night mass usually around 6pm.

beats the shit out of getting up early on sunday morning - esp with hangover

Tortington · 15/08/2006 13:48

and if you have a good priest and have a chat with him and just say you find 6 oclok mas better -b ut want your kids to be and feelinvolved they will usually do their best - either offertry or even collecting mass sheets and hymn books at the end of mass - makes the kids feel important.

Bugsy2 · 15/08/2006 13:48

I'm not the best Catholic in the world by any stretch of the imagination. Not even sure if I believe in God these days, but I feel that I made a bit of a pact with the Church when I put my children into a Church school. I signed up saying that I was a regular attender & on that basis my children have been forutnate to get into a really good school. Therefore, I feel obligated to go as much as I can. The thought of a lie in is so hilarious for me, there is no chance of that being a reason for not going!!! My kids don't even like going, but I drag them along regardless!!!

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earlgrey · 15/08/2006 13:49

LOL, Custy!

How old are yours, 'cos that's just about supper time for mine. How long do I have to wait?

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Tortington · 15/08/2006 13:50

if you think mass is too long dont get there early, sit at the back and be dead on time - the waiting about and shusshing is really annoying with kids. you can leave after communion even though the god botherers say you have to stay til priest leaves the altar

Tortington · 15/08/2006 13:58

mine are now teenageers and dont go at all. dd comes with me when i get "holy " moments or feel my half jew half catholic guilt coming on - which i do occasionally.

my youngest son - is a self declared bhuddist. he likes the figure of bhudda and said anyone who eats that much must be a great person to worship - fair enough thinks i - at least theres a kind of spirituality going on.

i feel i have done what i can in teaching them about church. all mine were at one point or another altar servers we used to go to confession every other week and church every week without fail.

now i haven't been sine easter.. i never really got into this church since moving its a bit too modern for my taste - plus these southerners sing funny hymns an i dont know them and i like hymns.

anyway digress i do - as per bloody usual, yes you need to get the kids involved in something at sat night mass
sorry its suppertime - but somethings gotta give chuck - thats what its about - its about giving yout time to say "thanks " for the week and pray you have a good week to come. an hour a week isn't to much to ask when you feel blessed wit wonderful chilren, born in a country where you dont have to fight for food or starve or drink dirty water, where you have a nie house or a house at all - so much to be thankful for

think i just talked myself into going to church...hmmmmm!

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earlgrey · 15/08/2006 15:16

CustyX, NO, you just talked me into going, be it Saturday OR Sunday.

Half Jewish, half Catholic? I'd love to hear how that happened. You should send your story to the Grauniad or Telegraph!!

Seriously, THANK YOU. And thank you for your wit and good homour about my question. XXXX It's made me think.

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tortoiseshell · 16/08/2006 11:03

Like Marina, it is worth it imo - the youngest goes to creche, as all 3 have done, and they have never had any problems being left with people, as they have been so used to it at church. The eldest 2 (age 5 and just 3) sit on their own in the front row of the church, and look SO sweet. Then after the 2nd hymn they toddle out to sunday school. What I love is the contrast between them sat looking beautiful during the service, and after the service when they and some of the other children charge round the church playing hide and seek, and being 'real' children!

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