OMG actual adult company ..tomorrow!!!!..what do i do!

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just summond up the nerve to call one of my dd's school chum's mums( i gave a few of them dd's number before they broke up incase they wanted to play together..no body rang..then i realised our number had been changed since move?..so dont know if theyve rang or not??)

i quite often give out number but i never get call back?..had a thread a while ago about being a desperate stalker, trying to make friends..anyway, rang two of them cos feel sorry for dd having me and new house stuff every day..and both are coming over this week(i didnt even have to twist their arm??!!)one tomorrow and one thurday.
mum tomorrow has three LO, one only weeks onl but is so much diff from me(go's for weekend to leeds, trendy clothes, always out with friends)..worried ill come acroos as a frumpy boring hermit like i am!
have two friends who i see who have known for years, but making new ones has just become very daunting for me..worried ill seem like a billy no mates, bore her to tears and scare off dd's firends

Well done for plucking up the courage to ring! Now stop putting yourself down and fretting about what they'll think (if they thought you were awful they would have made an excuse not to come) Making new friends is always daunting but I'm sure it will be fine - ask them about thmselves, talk about the children - they will be glad of a change of scene and the chance for a chat. Have fun!

Don't worry, the frumpy boring hermit look will encourage them - not threatening.

If they arrive and you are in full make-up with fresh biscuits on a tray and your skirting-boards gleaming, they will feel grossly inadequate and never come back.

Enjoy!

i used to be one of you, tellling people to go for it and not to worry but has been so long and i never thought about the 'parent' side of this when i invited kids to ring dd to play!
i know ill have nervous stomach and flap around like an idiot before they come..that why ive invited two..in a the deep end and all that!
have also just text friends sister(went on hol with them all feb and her dd's and mine got on fab) to see if she wants to pop round too(dd has big new playroom so easier all round they come here when weather like this)

sh*t have spent so much time tidying this morning, just realise i need hair washing, no 'comfortale' clothes ironed and dd was still running round in pj's..theyll be here in 1/2 hour ish!

I have gradually come to realise that most people have the same anxieties as I do, so there's no point worrying.
I actually made the closest new friend after she came round and was relieved to see a heap of unironed laundry and the breakfast dishes still on the table, we had a good laugh about being slovenly housewives, and now don't feel the need to do the frantic tidy up before visiting each other.

And I bet you're having a great time now aren't you?

we had such a good afternoon!
we got onto me starting childminding and shes asked me to have her dd1 when she gos back to work in a few months!
she had to pick her ds up and i said if she wanted to leave dd1 to see if she settled(as my dd's friend not for money)..her dd1 didnt want to leave!..we've had loads of fun and when her mum came back we chatted again and she was saying how happy she was that she settled which she never does!
she's such a nice woman, so chatty and thinks a lot like me!..same tastes, sense of humor etc..felt very comfortable with her!
i can see us being quite good friends...not out every weekend but you know what i mean.
so pleased i never came across as billy no mates or boring fart..we've arranged to take kids out next week and she said she liked the fact i was chatty and friendly in playground as i was like her

dd is already missing her dd1 and they both asked if she could sleep, so we'll see how it all gos!
but overall..glad i made the effort to ring..thanks guys

Glad all went well. Im a sahm and know how you feel. I have been out of work for around 18 months so I know waht it feels like.
God help me when dd starts school. It's mad that when I worked I was such a confident chatty person, I'm not so much as a hermit but the thought of starting new friendships does worry me!!

You have shown it can be done. Good luck with the future. xx

thanks Shhhh, i was made redundant when dd was 6 months old, so havent worked for almost 3 years as i initially had severe pnd, then decided id wait until dd went to school until i worked again.
i used to be a amanager of a busy shop and for 2 years it was in a football stadium club shop, so was never quiet and spoke to lots off different people from friends to celebrities, but afyter 3 years my confidense blew away and im a nervous wreck..i may 'look' confident to others as i will chat but the thought of getting out their and being ingnored/left out when speaking to someone makes me feel like jacking it all in!
anyway...glad i called her..weve got another LO and her mum thursday..so hopefully have a good day again

thing is no one knows i feel like this in RL as i 'act' like its no biggy!..so it helps to stress out here

got second of dd's friend + mum coming today..but she didnt give a time and doesnt have our new number..dya think she would think i was pestering her if i rang to ask roughly when?..ie morning or afternoon?

God, no, it's imperative you find out when!! Otherwise it's like waiting in for the Gas Man!!! How did she make the arrangement?

i rang..said im free tues, thurs fri and she said thur would be great, what time and i said any, just let me know...we never got back round to talking about it and she doesnt have new number!

You're well and truly lumbered then.

rang ad she said shell be coming about 10am..this was 9.30!(they live two roads away)..so mad rush round, not half as tidy as when other mum came, so mega paranoid, but theyve only just gone!
her girls were an absolute dream, played happily with my dd(theres an older girl of 7), ate lunch and me and mum sat in sun then front room and chatted from everything from childbirth to ebay!..soooo glad i went out on a limb this time..we're going to ring them next week and go to theirs
and although different than other mum, we actually have mutual friends/aquaintances, so that helped