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Two 'good' friends didn't even get me a card

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Thomcat · 10/08/2006 12:43

I know in the grand scale of things this is unimportant but I can't help but feel a bit.....hurt really.

My friend, who I actually saw on my birthday, which was Monday, didn't get me a card.
I jsu think it's really odd. I see her a lot. Not only did she know as I had said to her before hand, then on the actual day I said something about it, and then I picked out some bracelets she had to sell and said 'oh I'll treat myself for my birthday seeing as how D didn't get me a present'. And I asked her out for drinks for my birthday. I don't care that she didn't get me a gift, even thought I got her a gift voucher for a massage and a bunch of flowers as well as a nice card for her a few months back.

Then another friend, who again knew it was my birthday and not only did I get her a card and a gift, I joined her for a really expensive meal out which cost me a fortune, didn't bother sendong me a card.

I just feel a bit sad about it really.

My 2 bestest mates who were with me at the big chill gave me a card but didn't have gufts for me yet.

D didn't get me a present at all.

My MIL and SIL have forgotten, no cards, nothing.

So yeah I'mm feeling sorry for myself.
I feel like I want to say to the first friend 'why did you not get me a card' but it would mean a phone call to do so as she's going to Kent for 3 weeks on Sat morning and I have no plans to see her and it seems pathetic. I should just leave it and get over it, but can't understand why she, and others, have just not bothered at all.

I should just shape up and realise that at 35 no-one bothers about you anymore and it's all about your kids right????

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katierocket · 10/08/2006 14:58

gosh I don't get cards from any of my friends, perhaps I am resoundly unpopular. Actually I think it's just that no one really remembers unless you're having a party or anything. Can't say it bothers me really.

Happy Birthday TC BTW

juuule · 10/08/2006 16:10

Same here. I wouldn't expect cards or gifts for my birthday off friends. Wouldn't expect half of them to know when it was, to be honest, unless I told them. Ditto the other way round,too. If I remembered or they did, then we might give cards but more likely just wish each other a Happy Birthday . But there's too much family and kids friends birthday stuff to do and not enough money/time to be going round buying cards and presents for everyone no matter how nice it might be.

heiferjamese · 10/08/2006 17:37

I don't get cards (or receive them) from 'new' friends - ie friends since having DD. But I do get and receive cards from old friends.

But this year, I was also upset.

My DH didn't get me a card (or get one from DD), my mum and dad have passed away ( first birthday without either) so didn't get one there, and both my brothers families sent it late, 2 close friends didn't send one, and none from new friends... None from DH family (they don't do cards - where I guess DH got it from)....

I got about 3 cards on the day. 1 from best mate who never forgets and even gets us anniversary cards, (despite me never ever getting her one)... 2 from old work colleagues.

I think I cried, it was the least amount of cards I had ever had... Never had so few friends....

Anyway, resolved to never miss anyone elses in the future as I would hate them to feel as I did.

Seems trivia now but I know I was hurt at the time. It doesn't take much to show someone you are thinking about them - which is all I wanted....

I hope you do better next year.....

intergalacticwalrus · 10/08/2006 17:43

Have had shitty bdays myself this last couple of years. DP doesn't really do presents, and friends all forgot this year (I got 3 cards, one from DP, DS and my mum)

I always feel like crying when it comes to my birthday because I feel that no one cares. No one wants to come out either, on account of it being a month after xmas, just before payday at the end of Jan, so next time, I am not going to bother. Will just be a day like any other.

Not really a helpful post TC, but I bloody sympathise.

Gobblunarcharsky · 10/08/2006 18:16

Aw, TC, happy birthday!!

Tbh, I'd very upset if family forgot but I wouldn't be bothered about friends at all. Among all my different circles of friends, we don't send cards either.

dmo · 10/08/2006 21:13

same here nobody ever want to come out as my b/day is at christmas so everyone already has partys to go to
dh never forgets always get fab prezzis from him
sorry you had rubbish b/day tc its rottern when nobody cares

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