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DD1 will be eight on Friday and has been asked to her first sleepover

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earlgrey · 09/08/2006 08:58

What do I need to know? My mum said I shouldn't burden her with my moby, but FGS she's leaving here at 11.00am and probably wont return untill the same time tomorrow.

I'm all of a dither about my 'baby' being away from me for so long.

Any advice, anyone?

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clairemow · 09/08/2006 09:02

Presume it's at a friend's house and you know the parents well? I would give her the mobile, esp if it will help keep your mind at rest - if she's upset or wants to come home it will be easier for her to use that than to have to own up and ask to use their landline! Although if you give her your mobile, will she be able to get you if you're out?

having said that, I bet she has a fab time, and comes home totally exhausted having gone to sleep at 4 am and got up at 6!! Sounds like it's going to be a long day for her, starting at 11am!!

Make sure you arrange to do something nice for yourself while she's away as well, so that you get a treat as well, after all as a mum you deserve it!

batters · 09/08/2006 09:02

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Bozza · 09/08/2006 09:05

I wouldn't bother with the mobile TBH. And agree with batters, make sure you have a very quiet day planned tomorrow. My 5 yo DS is going on a sleepover on Thursday but he has been going on them with this particular friend since he was 3 so I'm not anxious.

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earlgrey · 09/08/2006 19:34

Have just spoken to her ... and I want her back

Am I a really awful mum for not wanting her to sleep at someone else's house? She's eight on Friday, 'spose I've got to let go sooner or later. And dd2 misses her, too.

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earlgrey · 09/08/2006 19:38

Anyone? With any thoughts?

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southeastastra · 09/08/2006 19:40

i always miss mine when he goes away and he's 12!

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earlgrey · 09/08/2006 19:40

Bozza, my mum told me not to bother with the mobile, she said it would place an onus on her that she couldn't deal with at her age.

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LIZS · 09/08/2006 19:45

Sorry missed this earlier. ds did his first one two weeks ago at a schoolfriend's house, to celebrate friend 's 8th bday. We don't even know the family that well ! Dropped him after lunch and collected him next morning, no contact. We missed him and he did us but think it was a good thing for him and he survived . So will she .

cosmicdancer · 09/08/2006 19:46

My DD is 7 and has just started having sleepovers.

I was a bit concerned before the first one but she has such a lovely time.

It's a good opportunity for you to give your other DD some special attention, too.

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earlgrey · 09/08/2006 20:52

LIZS and cos, THANK YOU!!!. No 'phone call from the parents, so I guess she's OK.

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frogs · 09/08/2006 21:09

8 seems a perfectly reasonable age to be sleeping away from home, tbh.

We took dd1's friend to Devon with us for a week when they were just 6, and ds who has just turned 7 has been away for the weekend with various different friends, and we've had his friends here for sleepovers. Dd1 went to pony camp for a week (sleeping in a leaky tent!) when she was 7 and has been on a week's residential activity holiday every year since. And all three children including the 2yo have been to stay with grandparents for a week.

I can't see a problem with it myself, as long as you have sufficient trust in the other parents to be sure the children won't be up till midnight watching 18-rated movies. Admittedly I am fairly robust in this department as my mother put me on a plane as an unaccompanied minor at the age of 4! And I grew up in a very rural area where the school catchment area was so large that having any kind of social life meant staying the night at your friends' houses from the age of about 5. But I do think that's preferable to these children that go on the Y6 school journey having never stayed away from home before, and then waste the whole week feeling homesick.

She'll be fine.

Bamzooki · 09/08/2006 21:09

My dd was 7 when she spent the night at her first pony camp last year It was the first time she had slept away from me apart from G/parents, and it was in a tent too! I was nervous wreck, convinced I would have to go and retrieve her at 3am, with 2 yr ds in tow. But she had a fab time, slept well - they had to wake her for breafast!!

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earlgrey · 09/08/2006 21:37

Bam and Frogs, THANK YOU. That's just what I want to hear, missing her, at twenty to ten.

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earlgrey · 09/08/2006 21:41

God, that sounds awful. I really mean it - it wasn't meant to sound sarcastic, if it did.

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Bozza · 09/08/2006 22:14

earlgrey hopefully by now she will be back home, tired but proud of being a big girl. DS honestly couldn't care less about going off for a sleepover. He has no nerves about the idea at all. So it sort of rubs off on me.

theunknownrebelbang · 09/08/2006 22:30

Aw. She'll be fine.

My youngest lad is 8 on Friday.

Sparkler1 · 09/08/2006 22:36

She'll be having a ball. DD1 had a sleepover party in June and had four of her friends to stay. DD had just turned 7 and a couple of her friends were still 6. They were fine, a night full of giggles and no sleep. You'll get her back tomorrow and have a peaceful day.

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earlgrey · 10/08/2006 07:50

THANK YOU all for your messages. It was really nice to spend all my time with dd2.

Now, do I call them, or wait for them to call me? I just don't know the form on this one.

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cosmicdancer · 10/08/2006 08:12

When my DD went for her sleepovers we had made a pre-arranged time to pick her up - 10am. I would maybe give them a ring in a little while. Hope she has had a great time.

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earlgrey · 10/08/2006 08:22

What's a good time to ring, do you think? I don't want to wake up the whole bloomin' household, but equally don't want her to outstay her welcome.

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Sparkler1 · 10/08/2006 08:27

If I remember dd's sleepover party - they were up early but it was pretty hectic with getting breakfast, getting them all dressed,washed and teeth brushed. It was like a conveyor belt. LOL
Leave it a bit longer - if you can. What time are you picking her up?

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earlgrey · 10/08/2006 08:34

Sparkler, I've no idea, that's the problem. They took their family and dd1 on an awayday, but we didn't finalise collection time. What would you do?

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Sparkler1 · 10/08/2006 08:36

I think I'd wait til about 9am I think. Glad to hear you had a good time with dd2.

batters · 10/08/2006 09:19

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Sparkler1 · 10/08/2006 10:12

Have you called?

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