Oh no, I may be forced to give up work!

[oliveoil]

MIL was rushed into hospital about 6 weeks ago for emergency hernia op and I have been doing 2 days a week instead of 3 and juggling with dh to cover childcare.

Back to normal this week, or so we thought. MIL is finding it very hard to deal with them both, lifting them up, is tired etc.

Dh reckons I will have to give up work, nursery not an option as for two it would not really be worth it.

We are supposed to be moving house soon but there is no way if our mortgage is going to double, not on one wage.

Fcuk fcuk fcuk

Anyone else been 'forced' to leave work and how did you manage money wise???

xx

dumb ass

xx

Off to do some work now [shocker]

OI

Who are you calling middle class ????

oh sorry. forgot you are Up North.

well, you did say you wanted a conservatory.

Middle-class-pretensions, then

I think she means that once she gets both kids in bed she can relax a bit, notherner.

oliveoil have you no other family/friends who would be willing to do you a favour? I know it is tricky because even though I have paid childcare the CM has been off one day in each of the last two weeks (school hols) so I have had at short notice to find alternative arrangements for DS. It is hard with no family close by. But easier with a 5yo than a 4 and 2 yo. Part of the reason I kept my 2yo in nursery rather than putting her with the CM.

Are your own parents not in the picture at all? Or any siblings of yours/DHs?

on a more practical note, could your MIL get some extra help from the physios at the hospital?

Oops slow posting.

My parents are 70 and 74 so a lot older than inlaws and not really v good, they get very tired when we visit and are probably glad to see the back of us .

No friends where I live >, not from round here.

Oh I don't know, will have to think of something.

I think I have been spoilt for so long that when things don't run smoothly, I get flustered. Dh is in a RIGHT MOOD and has just put the phone down on me. Will he never learn that that sort of behaviour is UNACCEPTABLE???

Oh DH put the phone down on me last week. I was shouting at him for something much more trivial - to do with weekend arrangements and me having to fit in around him and his family etc. Apologized by text later though.

Hmm it is difficult to come up with ideas when you don't really know someone's individual circumstances. It just seems a pity for you to give up work when the it is probably a short term problem.

Although I am not from round here and knew nobody when I had my kids but still have friends here now. Whom I shamelessly exploit when the need arises.