When your partner is out for the day/night do you expect them to take their mobile?

[jampots]

Dh has gone out for the day and wont be back until about midnight (hppefully). As he was leaving he said he couldnt find his mobile phone so was going without it. I said I'd quickly ring it but he was out the door and into the car pronto. The phone didnt ring in the house so I nipped outside and sure enough I heard it ringing in the car - dh maintains he didnt know it was in his pocket! Anyway he took it out and fired it across the car and it bounced off the passenger window saying he didnt want to take the fucking thing. Anyway the long and short of it is that it is now smashed and he has gone off in a bad mood and no phone. He obviously didnt want to be contactable today which I think, as a joint parent, is unacceptable especially as I dont ring him to chat its just there as an emergemcy if necessary

i would normally expect partner to take phone yeh for emergencies but also sometimes for a chat as i dont work so i'm stuck in house all day with only kids for convo as i'm new to the area i live in and only know a few people. i def agree that as a joint parent it is essential to have phone for emergencies you never know what could happen.

oh I definitely dont need to chat to him the children and I have a party planned, we have some friends coming over and we've bought loads of "value" food from teh supermarket - no brands at our parties plus DVDs etc.

unacceptable as a parent imho. unless it's an agreed day off, or an important meeting or something.

dh has a bloody bdtararssd blackberry which he has to tend to for work emails 24/7 but which has the ring tone off (otherwise it would interrupt him constantly) which drives me insane. should be made illegal. going to ruin marriages.

Def take it with him. Why not?? It's not like you'd be ringing him every 10 minutes checking up on him. DH even took his phone on his stag night (got a lovely phone call about 10pm telling me how much he loved me and he didn't care who knew it!)

good on you for plannin a party, let him huff, men are great at huffin and they say we moan typical.there was no need to smash the flammin thing thou cause like u said there is emergencies to think of. oh my the way can some one explain what dh stands for dd, ds etc i'm new to all this

iklboo- ur hubby sounds lovely ringin u to ssay love u on his stag night bless him.

If my DH goes out in town and says he doesnt want to take his mobile with him I just say " no probs, I will just ring the club if I have a problem and get them to call for you over the club tannoy system".........works every time - not that I've had to use it

mrsgiggles - dh is dear/darling husband, ds is dear son, dd is dear daughter etc - if you look in the 'useful stuff' section at the top of the page, there's a link to the list of acronyms.

i'll have to try that one next time just to see his face i'm sure his phone would be straight in his pockect

jackieno- thanks i'd never of known where to look.how are u???

I'm good thanks, mrsgiggles - welcome to Mumsnet, by the way.

DH normally has his mobile with him, but not always switched on. And he sometimes forgets it. I can normally get in touch if I really need to, although he went off diving the other day, and couldn't take his mobile out on the boat with him, as it might have got ruined, and the dive went on much longer than planned, so I was rather worried.

thanks

My dh takes his mobile and blackberry everywhere. He may have them, but it doesn't always mean you can get hold of him if he is in a meeting etc

I rarely take my mobile with me, in fact I have no idea where it is at the moment. However if I was going out away from the children for a whole day I would let whoever was looking after them know how to contact me. Alternatively if that was not possible I would ring periodically to check on them.

I hate mobile phones, it wouldn;t bother me if I didn't have one at all.

"Anyway he took it out and fired it across the car and it bounced off the passenger window saying he didnt want to take the fucking thing."

That was grumpy and rude and would have really pissed me off. Sympathies, jp.

More to the point WHY didnt he want to take it . What is he up to ?

he's only off to see his birthmum

I cant even go to the supermarket without him ringing me for something so 12 hours out of the house incommunicado pisses me off just a bit

Yes, I always expect DH to take him mobile out with him and to have it turned on. Even when in meetings I expect it to be available, even if on silent. He is our nursery's first contact 3 days a week so it is important. Rest of time I like to know it is there for emergencies. he expects me to have my phone so only fair. He hate shaving a mobile with him though, but has learnt that it is important to me!

Havent read the thread....

But when I got out I always take my phone but tend to switch it off and check for messages every so often. If im out relaxing and drinking and dancing I dont want my nan calling me to ask how the kiddies are getting on iyswim.

Totally different situation to you though Jampots, but am trying to kill time til bedtime so thought id post anyway.

Both DH and I take our mobiles when we are out without the other (IYSWIM).