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Oh F**K we are going to be homeless at Christmas :-(

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Miaou · 01/08/2006 17:58

Our landlady called and spoke to dh whilst I was at work today. They are renting their house to us as the job her dh has has an apartment with it. But the owners have now said they need the apartment back at the end of the year. She (the landlady) is v. upset about this turn of events and has been very good by telling us now as she only has to give us two months notice.

But houses round here are as rare as rocking-horse sh*t and the chances of us getting another in this area are about nil

We always knew it was a possibility but both we and our landlady were looking at this as a long-term arrangement.

I'm absolutely gutted.

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SminkoPinko · 01/08/2006 18:01

Aw. sorry to hear this miaou.

kate100 · 01/08/2006 18:02

Oh no!! I couldn't believe it when I saw that this was you You are having a time of it aren't you honey..... and this is supposed to be such a happy day

At least your land lady has been as fair to you as she can be, do you have any idea what you're going to do?

roisin · 01/08/2006 18:03
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Miaou · 01/08/2006 18:06

Yeah kate, what a fab first birthday present for ds

We are applying to go on the council housing list, but there are 6 council houses in our village and 20 people on the waiting list for them so absolutely no chance of getting one, or in the village 15 miles away (next one to us)

If we get anything (which we probably won't until we actually become homeless ) we will be in the really rough area of town (too far away to keep the kids in their school)

Jeez, typing it makes it seem even worse

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kate100 · 01/08/2006 18:08

I feel so bad for you I could cry and might, sorry don't know what to say

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Miaou · 01/08/2006 18:11

's ok kate, I'm feeling so down about it I'm not ready to be constructive yet. Dh is trying to buoy me up but I was feeling a bit down this morning anyway, plus I had just been thinking how much I love this house - so the timing wasn't great.

Boy I hope we win the lottery this weekend!!!

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vitomum · 01/08/2006 18:27

Miaou, so sorry to hear this. Am i right in thinking you are in rural scotland? there is such a shortage of affordable housing there it really is a disgrace.

JennyLee · 01/08/2006 19:19

thinking of you, am in temporary housing in whitburn scotland, is not where we want to be and have been here for 6 weeks and are waiting to get our permanent house too. my ds will have to go to the local school. it is disruption. however the homeless house is spotless and has 3 bedroom and a garden, so is not as bad as had feared. Hope you get descent accomodation and thinking of you.

marthamoo · 01/08/2006 19:21

I'm so sorry, Miaou - what a nightmare.

SherlockLGJ · 01/08/2006 19:25
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Miaou · 01/08/2006 20:33

Thanks guys. Yes vitomum we are rural scotland and the shortage of housing is a serious problem. We tick all the right boxes - work locally, kids in local school, close relatives nearby - but they cannot give us a house that does not exist.

JennyLee , it's horrible having to move the kids when you don't want to, isn't it. Glad your house is ok though. I'm not too worried from that point of view - I would live in a hut if it meant I could stay in the area! - but the chances are it won't be where we want to be (which will mean giving up my job too).

Dh is fab though, we told the kids and he presented it as a great adventure and said the worst that can happen is that we end up in town for a bit and we can always home-school if we aren't happy with the school (they loved that idea).

I just hate having my life turned upside down and not being in control. B*llocks.

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Miaou · 01/08/2006 22:40

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expatinscotland · 01/08/2006 22:46

oh no, miaou!

bumping this!

foundintranslation · 01/08/2006 22:51

Oh dear Miaou I am sorry. Wish I knew something positive to suggest.

hunkermunker · 01/08/2006 22:52

Oh, Miaou, no, oh no!

Oh, shit, you poor things

Something will turn up though - yours is too nice a family for it not to. Remember that.

Happy birthday to DS too - SO hard to believe your am I aren't I, shall I get the ferry now thread was a year ago!

I love that DH is being so positive about home-schooling - he's fantastic, isn't he!

Lots of love to you all - give DS a big birthday cuddle from me!

oops · 01/08/2006 23:00

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bramblina · 01/08/2006 23:01

Oh Miaou! I'm so sorry, I know full well housing in these parts is a big problem. Though up here, Winter is not so much of a problem as all the holiday houses are vacant for the winter...are there any close to you that may be available for a few months? A hassle I know, but it could add a few months on to your search?

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Miaou · 01/08/2006 23:02

dh is totally fab and calm about it. I usually am but am totally all over the place atm (actually think I might be pg but then I always do ) and am being really hormonal about it.

We talked about home schooling before, in depth, but decided that the social aspects of school were of primary importance given our dd's (and our own) personalities. But I would home school them at the drop of a hat rather than put them into a poor school environment.

I think if it hadn't been ds's birthday I would have taken it better, but it totally ruined the day for me

dh says something will turn up, and I'm sure it will, but I really can't bring myself to believe that we will end up in as nice a house in as nice a location (well, it won't be here for a start).

Ignore me, I'm just whining now

Tis cathartic tho

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expatinscotland · 01/08/2006 23:03

Aw, Miaou, rant away! SO hoping you find some resolution.

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Miaou · 01/08/2006 23:06

Yes bramblina, we have a friend who has a holiday cottage, I am going to see her tomorrow and find out if we can have it for the winter (though she can usually find tenants). If not we have lots of friends who will put their ear to the ground.

"These things happen for a reason" is our motto, oops! If dh's mum hadn't died of cancer we would never have met (long story) - totally convinced us that bad things can come good

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Miaou · 01/08/2006 23:09

thanks expat. And everyone else.

It is so not like me to not deal well with this. It is making me feel totally miserable. I hope I am in a better frame of mind tomorrow, I'm pissing myself off now

We nearly cancelled our holiday in a bid to save some money(there's another thing - we cannot afford to move!) - but the kids would have been devastated (we're off on Friday for a fortnight) and we couldn't bring ourselves to do it to them. (Or us.)

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edam · 01/08/2006 23:09

Oh no Miaou, that's the last thing you need. Hope something turns up.

JanH · 01/08/2006 23:12

Oh miaou, I'm so sorry to hear this - esp on DS's birthday

DH is another great believer in fate though so I'm hoping this will lead to something better for you

SherlockLGJ · 02/08/2006 08:44

Miaou

Hope you are feeling better today.

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Miaou · 02/08/2006 09:13

Hi sherlock, I would love to say yes but I'm not really - can't help but think about what we are losing. Bit naive of me I know since we only had a shorthold tenancy but I was hoping (as was my landlady) that this would be long-term (ie 5+ years) arrangement. We have been here 18months, that's all.

I'll feel better when we know better what our options are I think.

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