If you could change the number of children you had then would you?

[TambaIsBadBadBad]

I have 2 boys ages 4 and 2, and I love them both and could never choose between them, but sometimes I think to myself that I should only have had one child.

Like last night and today I only had DS2 and its been lovely. I get to read to him and play with him and spend time cuddled up with him, and 'talk' (in that baby way!) with him.

If I only had one child then it could be like this all the time, instead of me getting stressed with htem arguing, or wanting to do different things when inevitably ds2 will be too young to play etc. I could afford to take a single child to things like baby gym and swimming classes, things i cant do at the moment.

I love both my children and could never imagen life without either of them. But if i could do it all again I would have only had one (either one will do, they are both scrummy)

How about you?

I'd have more! I'd adopt two more.

I'd have 4 instead of 3, always wanted 4 and constantly feel like I am missing something.

Right now, what with the velcro baby and whirlwind toddler, I will happily let expat adopt mine!

We've decided to stick at 2, then I had a dream last night where I was pregnant and doing a pregnancy test and was really happy and have woken up all broody make of that what you will!

Mmmmm. I'd probably have had none instead of 1, provided that I could eliminate all broodiness, all desire for children and all wondering whether I'm missing something.

But having said that, the world is naturally an immeasurably better place for containing ds.

i've got two boys and thought i would wait a bit in between (12 and 5) sometimes i wish i hadn't waited so long, so i guess whatever is best!

Don't go there Anthony, that's how i've ended up with a six year age gap.

I would love another one, but not for a while. I do get broody all the time, but I seriously could not afford to have another child and I'd also like to return to work in the near future. I;m starting my postgraduate course in sept too which is going to be hard enough with one child let alone 2!!!

And erm there is one thing, I am a single mum so would need to find a decent man before I think about a sibling for my ds

I think I may have opted out too
Are you back with dh by the way Tamba? Hope everything is going okay...

ive got too boys age 9 and 10
if i could swop i'd have no kids (sorry bad day)
ds2 got me cross so i went into kitchen and cleaned microwave

anyway anthonykiedisbiton the side
who was the father anthony or dp?
told you b4 he is mine

HAHA Dmo I think it was dp's but the dream started at the pregnancy test part not the concieving part although if it was Anthony's and the concieving part was in it that would have to have been the best dream ever. Funnily enough AK was in the dream I had before that but I can't remember in what context but he was beautiful!

at least i'm not cross anymore you have made me smile again

Lucy - nope not back with H and never will be. Am alot happier now than I was before

Not many people would have less children then? Dont you find it hard work though having a few, sharing your time and resources out etc? Lack of 'me' time?

I would not change my choices but I do often think how much easier it is with 2 rather than 3 (1 even more so!). However, I think much of this is down to the ages they are at the moment. They are 5, 3.5 and almost 2. The 5 and 3 yr old are easy to entertain, don't need a buggy to take them anywhere, can explain how you expect them to behave somewhere etc and bribe/reward them accordingly . Add ds3 into the mix and things get harder as I need the buggy, I need spare nappies etc (and it really is a PITA if I have to change a dirty one while out), it's hard to control him - i.e.keep him quiet or whatever in a public place. It's just very difficult to keep all 3 under my watchful eye when out and so I do find it a bit stressful sometimes.

All of this will get much easier when ds3 gets to about 3-4 I think. At the moment I can't take them to the cinema as ds3 is too young - there are a few things I just don't do with the boys because ds3 is 'too young'.

Hmm, that's a ramble! I wouldn't change it all fora minute though - they are fab together and so much fun even if utterly hard work!

After attempting to take both boys into town yesterday by foot (H had DS2's buggy in the car), I would have answered 0!! It was not an experience I will repeat in a hurry!
Love them to bits & all that, but if ever I mention popping into town & letting DS2 walk, remind me that it is a really bad idea!!!

Ditto dino!

God, especially my ds3 - he's a whirlwind and I'd lose him in seconds

We planned to have just the one child but DS was conceived even though I had the coil fitted and we felt it was just "meant to be". I did find it very hard when DS was baby and DD was 2 but now they are 6 and 4 and they are good company for each other although they fight loads. Have no desire for any more though, just don't have the patience.

pushchairs are much quicker and u get a shopping trolly saves carring shopping ans young children
do they make prams for 8 yr olds miss mine

Very wise, Dino!
It was the quickest & most hellish visit into town ever! DS2 was wailing because he didn't want to hold my hand, wailing because he wanted picking up, wailing because DS1 dared to touch him which led to DS1 touching him all the more! I then got some old bloke laughing & saying "We have all been there love!"
Think cutting my ears off with a very sharp knife would have been a more enjoyable experience!!

i love children!!!!!!!!!
we should all go back to work full time 7 days a week

Oh I know that feeling Lemmingswife. DS hates walking and he's 4, he's such a lazy little git mind you I have only just made him give his buggy up.

I am now trying to get him off his bottle. I know the