D and I are going to a music festival from Thursday morning until Monday afternoon. We decided to not take the kids this year as hard with Lottie not walking still and having to carry her everywhere and Eve is a bit too young.
So we have arranged for both kids to be looked after by family.
My Dad has DD1 on Thursday and my mum and stepdad have DD2.
Friday my mum has both of them with the help of my sister and my dad and then my stepfather.
Saturday my MIL picks them both up and they go there for the day where my MIL, FIL and SIL all live and will be looked after by them until Sunday.
My mate then picks them up and they both go there with her husband and herself and 2 children aged 3 and 6.
On Monday my dad picks them up taked DD1 to her summer school and DD2 to the usual childminder until we arrive home.
DD2 has started pulling to stand a lot. She is 7 months old btw. She's into everything and tries to get up the first stair etc. But all are aware of this.
My mum just phoned to say she couldn't sleep last night worrying and didn't think she would be a good mother if she didn't tell me. She said she always said the positive but felt she had to balance it my telling me the negative as well. OK fair enough.
She's really worried that an accident might happen and said if she was the parent she wouldn't go.
I've said but an accident is more likey to happen in the home with me and Dp then with a doting grandparent who'll follow her around.
I've said that if she is worried about an accident happening when she is not in my care I should therefore give up work for the next year, or perhaps never go back and never leave her, just in case an accident happens.
I know that leaving a 7 month old might not be the best thing in some peoples eyes, but I'm leaving her with grandparents and it's only 4 days. What difference does it really make if I leave her 4 times in the next few months or do it back to back all at once and not leave her agin for another year, if ever?
If an accident is gonna happen it's gonna happen whether I'm there or not. And like I said it's more likey to happen in our own home.
As long as the people she's with watch her near stairs what's gonna happen anyway? She'll have 3 sets of doting eyes on her everywhere she is.
My mum has made me feel shit though.
I'm not having a holiday this year and was really looking forward to some chilld time with my DP and my best mate and some other friends and felt I was being very careful in who looked after my kids, have written out detailed notes on each, been expressing milk for DD2, have freezer stocked with home cooked meals. Now I feel like shit.
What am I supposeed to do now?