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Sleepover poll, a what time should children be collected?

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Chandra · 28/07/2006 22:36

We have organised a micro baby sitting ring which seemed like a very good idea, but my idea of allowing parents to go out at night out while one from the other couple went and stay with the children has turned into a sleepover childminding.

They offered to drop the child at the other house on a weekday night and pick the child up in the morning, initially it sounded like a wonderful idea but on the first time, they left their kid and had not picked her up by 11. At 12 we took her back to her house where we found the dad had gone to do somework at the office and mum was having a lie in. So.... considering we only have one day during the weekend to go out as a family it really annoyed me to waste it waiting for them to appear, so.... basically, am I right on being annoyed or I am just getting into the deeper end of my premenstrual cycle?

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Chandra · 28/07/2006 22:37

sorry weekend night...

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Katymac · 28/07/2006 22:38

Well at least it sets the time you will be expected to pick up when it's your turn?

soapbox · 28/07/2006 22:39

For big children we usually keep them for the whole day after the sleepover. For babies though, I'd tell parents to pick them up at 10am.

soapbox · 28/07/2006 22:39

For big children we usually keep them for the whole day after the sleepover. For babies though, I'd tell parents to pick them up at 10am.

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Chandra · 28/07/2006 22:42

Children are 2 and 3. And on top of that the girl keeps waking up through out the night, so I can positively said that I didn't sleep more than 3 hrs that night.

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Tortington · 28/07/2006 23:38

10am

jampots · 29/07/2006 00:19

I would say 10-10.30 regardless especially as you only have 1 free weekend day.

Tortington · 29/07/2006 03:05

yeah - their hangover is not your concern.

apronstrings · 29/07/2006 03:23

yes 10 am ish is perfect

threebob · 29/07/2006 05:35

Going to do some work at the office - not on. It's a circle for people to enjoy themselves without breaking the bank on a baby sitter, not a nanny service.

Bucketsofdinosaurs · 29/07/2006 20:20

Good point 3bob. Next time they can use that overtime money to pay for childcare!
Unless they went off for a naughty night at a travelodge (or more upmarket if you like ) that's pretty rude to completely disregard your life, not to mention their own kids.

mousiemousie · 29/07/2006 20:35

You need to take some responsibility for the situation too...next time agree what time the kids will be collected in the morning!

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Chandra · 30/07/2006 21:04

Thanks for your posts, I think 10:00 sounds reasonable. I will speak to them about picking up the child at that time next week, problem about setting up times was that when we asked at what time we should pick up DS they said "anytime is good" which put me in an ackward position, although I would not leave him with them later than 9:00, I know they are also a bit restricted in "family time".

Thanks again,

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7up · 30/07/2006 21:09

im the evil mother then!when my ds was 5 or 6 and he had sleepovers when theyre at that age of waking up early and being very very noisy i used to take them back at 9am!one boy who is now diagnosed hyperactive i actually returned at 8am and told his mum that id had him up screaming since 5am!

now ds is 11.5 and i dont mind hanging on to his mate until lunchtime

ocd · 30/07/2006 21:10

mieb have sleep overs allt he time
with each other
they love ti and GOD uts easy

ocd · 30/07/2006 21:10

the day after s the sleep over surely all kids horribley tired

Bozza · 30/07/2006 21:12

Chandra I think you are learning from your own mistake here!

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Chandra · 30/07/2006 21:17

erm...which of all my long list of mistakes are you refering to?

I agree sleepovers are great fun, although I would preffer to have the kids all day before the sleepover and then take them back early in the morning, rather than having the children arriving at 7:30 and having them after lunch. (Too excited to go to sleep, too grumpy for the lack of sleep a day after).

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Bozza · 31/07/2006 13:42

That you should have been more definite at the outset to avoid having people take the piss. Sounds to me like you assumed they would be as reasonable as you are and you now learning that is not the case.

Agree with your post about day before rather than day after the sleepover btw!

joelallie · 31/07/2006 15:27

I am never having a sleepover DD was invited to impromptu sleepover at friend's house last weekend. At midnight all 8 little girls were still wideawake and shouting apart from my DD and one other child who were crying with tiredness. Friend had to split them all up between different rooms and speak 'firmly' before they went to sleep. DH went to pick DD up at 9.30 next day and they were all already up and noisy. DD was foul that day.

I think that 10am sounds perfectly reasonable.

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