Morning rant - stupid obnoxious 4x4 driving cow

[JoshandJamie]

So I drop my boys off at nursery this morning. The driveway into the nursery is very narrow - only space for one car, with quite steep slopes off to the side. It also exits onto a very busy road so it always takes a while to back out onto the road.

So I drive out and get to the road at the same time that another mum in her expensive 4x4 arrives to turn into the nursery. She is in a turning lane so isn't holding up traffic or anything. So she's literally there for 5 seconds when she gives me this little dismissive hand gesture as if to say: get out of my way, I want to turn in.

So I just wait because I can't really go anywhere other than reversing all the way back up the driveway. So she does it again. (really, it was the most annoying little hand flick ever - like: you are in my way and I'm in a big car, now move)

The next minute she just turns in forcing me to reverse my car backwards and down the steep slopes of the drive so that she can push past. I was so mad that I very nearly got and told her to not be such a rude, impatient, rich stuck up cow.

But of course I didn't. I just had a quiet seethe in my car. Stupid, obnoxious witch.

Sorry - rant over. Needed to get that off my chest

how horrible, I would have been fuming as well and not said anything.

arrogant cow. 'I've got a big car and everyone else can get out of my way'. Maybe you could ask nursery to ask all parents to be careful on the drive and not enter until it's clear?

Or maybe you shouldn't have reversed, and said to her that as she got you both into that position, it's her responsibility to get you out of it.

No - I wouldn't have said it either, but I'd have loved to

Just shows, bullying doesn't only happen in the playground!!

when you are collecting your child make sure you stand right in front of her, then give her a little flick of your hand as if she's in your way. Then sail past her.

stupid cow.

I'd have done the same wouldn't have said anything - just seethed inwardly!!!!

Silly cow!!!!!

I pick up my mobile and start talking when someone does something like this - it prompts them to get out of their car and come and confront you and then you be really polite to them and it throws them off balance.

Or sometimes I just sit - mind you I have got out and ranted a few times at the berks who block the school road - but never swear and never raise your voice then you can take the moral stand when they do.

poor you

i live in a cul de sac with a school at the end... ie the end that goes onto the main road that our cul de sac goes on to..

My policy is i NEVER reverse for the mums EVER.... (cause there are 200+ of them going to oppsite way to me!)

the Pi$$ me off lots too many times... some even parking on or often blocking MY drive cause its only for a few minutes....

so now i dont give a damn.... i will sit there for as long as it takes for them to move!

I run a haulage business and we gets loads of bloody minded people who think they have right of way just cos it's a lorry that needs to pass. I have btold all of my drivers to sit there, put the hand brake on and then in a big dramatic way get out their flask and make themselves a cup of tea! Seems to work everytime, the other driver usually shouts some abuse then gets back to were they should be and lets the driver pass.

I should make it really clear that they are only told to do this when they are firmly in the right!

If you feel you have to back, just back really slowly with an ironic look on your face, stopping frequently, like you don't know how to drive.

Otherwise I like Twinkie1's tactic to start talking on your mobile (similar to neena28's coffee-drinking truckie).

and why would she need a 4x4 to drive her kids to nursery? does she have to ford a river to get there? Ask her, next time

i wouldn't have moved. i would have turned the fucking car off just to see her reaction. if she got out, then i'd give her seven shades of holy hell.

She probably does have to ford a river - the Thames - only she might not have noticed that there are bridges available.

she's lucky it was you behind the wheel and not me.

Why didn't you honk your horn and move towards her? Why the hell should you have to reverse all the way back? I would have switched off the car and got out and told her to back out so I can drive onto the road. Mind you I find I am getting more and more b-minded, the longer I live where I do.

If I encounter an imperious or a stupid driver who won't wait or reverse when, following all the laws of common sense and time/motion, it's clearly sensible for them rather than me to do so, I have 3 tactics:

1. Always stay calm and polite (it annoys them hugely)
2. Expansively chat to my children on the back seat, and/or look at the AZ (we're in london)/make a phone call/apply lippy slowly, using the mirror.
3. Don't move

I'm not a cow; I'm more than happy to reverse or wait for people when it's polite and sensible to do so. I use these tactics when, for example, some arsey type whizzes along past a sensible passing space on a narrowish road, aggressively nudges up to my bumper and THEN expects me to reverse into, oh I dunno, the seven cars behind me, or the main road I've just turned off...

Oh and although i drive an XC90, I'm not a road snob. I also have a bike for doing local shopping when my 4 children aren't with me, plus i do more than my fair share of walking the morning school run.

fording the thames twice a day, that must be stressful...

Do you know the car?
Just key it next time you see it.

She'll know who did it and why.

That's very naughty moondog. Off to the naughty step with you Personally I would let down the tires

I'm sure the man who fixed my washing machine would have punched her in the face though

Why,was he a brute Sandy???

Quiet type I thought but he got to telling me how he'd punch anyone in the face who got on his nerves and it really left me thinking about how I deal with obnoxious people.

I know who the mum is and I know that I'll bump into her again as she usually picks up her child at the same time i fetch mine. I'm itching to say something like:

oh, you're that rude, obnoxious 4x4 driver who pushed me out of the way. Well you obviously have no manners and so your child probably doesn't either which is why I'm so glad I'm taking my kids out of this nursery - I'd hate for her bad habits to rub off on them.

But I know I won't. I might be brave enough to give her a filthy look but that will be where it ends.

Seriously, this nursery (while lovely) is ridiculous. The parade of 4x4s, convertibles and other mega posh cars that line up to pick up the kids everyday just stuns me. We don't have a bad car (an Audi A6 estate) but it looks positively dowdy in comparison. And all the mothers are perfect - like something from stepford wives. They are immaculately groomed and perfectly toned. Hair and make up done to perfection.

in contrast, I run a business from home and slap on whatever is vaguely clean before ferrying the kids off in their equally scruffy clothes. We're moving out of the area and they're going to a new nursery soon which I hope has a few more normal mums (and less aggressive drivers)

Basically they leave me quivering with ineffectual rage

just coz someone has a big car doesnt mean they have thr right to push someone back.
its coz she's a rude cow that she forced you back. and you let her.
i personally wont give way if i feel i am in the right. stupid cows can.