Surogacy (sp!), would you do it?

[jofeb04]

I am thinking about this, as I am only 24, got my family, and want to help others to have a gift of a child.
Would you ever think of doing it for a couple?

Thats it really!

No. I'm too old and don't give birth easily!

I don't think I could, like SD I don't give birth easily and I would find it difficult to give the child up - although I do admire people who do it

Have you thought about egg donation?

never, no

no, I'm way too old, had horrible pgs with pre eclamsia and c sections both times.

too much chance for emotional upset

TBH, i havent really thought of egg donation, I've had two pritty bad labours and pregnancies etc, but the reason im asking is a very good friend of mine who has failed ivf twice is talking about having a stranger "obv would know her by the time of the surragency etc". So, i started to think about it.

I pondered it once for my cousin but it was her dh who ended up being the infertile one.
That was when I was younger a single mum and had sailed thru pregnancy and birth.
Now no way, too old 36 and pregnant myself
Wonderful thing to do if you are made of the right emotional stuff though, I do admire women that do it for the "right" reasons

if it were for my sister or brother...useing their tissues then yes!

i can think of nothing more amazing than giving a couple a child. i would see it as just borrowing my oven to bake bread.

i would love to do it for a different couple but i really dont think i could.

Like fattie, if it were for a family member then yes, maybe. I'm getting on a bit now though.

Actually, it may sound mercenary, but I would also consider it for a life changing sum of money.

yes, if they could make it so no morning sickness at all.

No, find pregnancy tough and would find handing over newborn tougher still. Think it's wonderful if you can do it though

no way! LOATHED being pregnant and giving birth/after birth.

my body has been wrecked by having two, can't imagine going thru it again.

I don't think I could hand over a baby even if it was not biologically mine.I probably would considerit for a family member but as an only its not likely to arise.
I have also considered egg donation in the past butits not really a practical option atm possibly once my family is complete.

Rather eat hot coals than be pg or giving birth again! Would do egg donation but not for someone I knew, too much temptation to stalk the baby anytime I was feeling vulnerable. Donating to first on the list bumps up the person you know a little.

Rather eat hot coals than be pg or giving birth again! Would do egg donation but not for someone I knew, too much temptation to stalk the baby anytime I was feeling vulnerable. Donating to first on the list bumps up the person you know a little.

i couldn't do egg donation, either. i probably could have before i had kids, but now, watching them grow and seeing the people they become, nope.

it's not anonymous in the UK anymore, either.

It might be selfish but I couldn't be a surrogate or do egg donation. I couldn't emotionally seperate myself.

same here, lucy.

hats off to those who can.

i'd also be afraid of how it could affect my older daughters.

I once thought I could, and oneday probably would(not with my eggs though)

Now I couldn't, even though biologically the baby would have no links with me I just wouldn't be able to separate myself from the whole process.
I couldn't do egg donation either.

I just imagine one of my children somewhere in there world who I'd never know....

Would do it for family or close friend without hesitation. Probably not otherwise.

newborns are so irresistable. the wee cry. the skinniness. nah, i couldn't do it.

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no way...not a good pregnant person and it creeps me out to be honest