another baby or not?

[alexa1]

Hi. I would like some advice.
I have 2 lovely children a little girl who will be 4 soon and a baby boy who will be 1 soon.
My DH has booked in to have the snip and an appointment has come through for August 18th. As soon as the appointment came I felt really sad at the thought that we would never have children again. Now I really want another one. I don't know if this is Just because the appt came through. I really feel I want another one.
I am doing an access course at the moment which I complete next year, I can then apply for a nursing course, which is something I have wanted to do for ages.
Shall Just be grateful for what I have got? If I have another one then childcare is going to be a problem, especially with my course and if I put off my course for too much longer, I probably won't get a place at university because I will be too old as I will be 35 soon and feel I don't have much time left (if you what I mean) so I need to decide quick especially as hubby is booked in next month.
My DH says I should just concentrate on my career now and think about myself (as I have been a full-time mum for 4 years) and should be out in the real world socialising a bit more and working. Then he says that if I want another baby it's up to me.
Shall I Just be grateful? especially as friends of ours have been ttc for nearly 2 years now and are the same age as us.
I feel totally selfish but I really feel ready for another baby. My kids are so good,very happy and easygoing, I am finding motherhood a real pleasure.
What shall I do??
any advice?

why don't you cancel the appointment for the vasectomy and just think about it for a bit longer. Your dh can always re-book and go and have it done so don't feel like you have to decide now.
btw 35 is young still, I did the access course and a LOT of people on it with me were in their mid forties so please don't think that you will be too old if you did stop and have another baby.

i do think you need to take the vasectomy issue out of the way so that you can figure out if it is just that or whether you really do want another one

sounds to me like you know you want another!!

I don't know if you can get away from that. My husband had a snip 3 months ago and I don't have any sadness or concern that I want another. I know I can't have another - my youngest is 14 months.

Some one once said to me that her definition of madness was one more child than you want iyswim. it makes perfect sense to me - you are obviously not at that point in your life yet. But 35 isn't very old - I had a 4 year gap btwn no.s 2 and 3.

Your friends situation is sad but shouldn't affect your decision - its ok to feel grateful but still want another baby

Don't do anything you might regret. Just take your time and only do anything when you are ready.

i have just had the coil fitted today. although we have no intention in having anymore, i did not want to take it away from either of us. i am 36 dh 46.