Wasn't sure where to put this

[earlgrey]

Would you attend the actual burial of someone you'd only known for six months? It's today, and I wanted to go, but H says it's a definate no-no unless you're close family.

I'm going to the Mass and the wake. What do you think?

Anyone?

i would play it by ear - some families will expect everyone from mass to go and others will be close family.

personally, i wouldn't go unless it was close family or i'd been personally invited by a family member.

Could you just confirm it with the family - do you know them well enough to call and ask if they would mind you attending? You never know they might be really pleased that you would like to be there.

I wouldn't phone up, it IS the day of the funeral after all. I would play it by ear at the mass, maybe ask someone there if you feel you can.

Personally I would be touched if someone wanted to pay their respects in that way.

How close is the burial to where the mass is being held?

The family might invite the whole congregation to the burial and/or the refreshments bit afterwards. TBH, I go to quite a lot of funerals (!) but don't normally for to the crematorium or burial unless I've been specifially invited.

morning, sorry for your loss Earl Grey.
If you would like to go to the burial, then I would go, unless it is pretty obvious that only the close family are going.

I would go if you wish, I think unless it is clearly only very close family...

Thank you all for your messages, I did read them all but haven't had a chance to reply until now.

In fact, her husband hired a coach to take all the congregation to the burial, so I needn't have worried!

Thanks once again.XX

I'm glad you were able to say your final goodbyes