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Its my birthday and DH forgot for the 9th time!

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Xena · 10/07/2006 09:21

He forgot my 17th, 18th, 19th, 20th, (my 21st we had split up) forgot my 22nd, 23rd, 24th and 25th that year DS1 was 6 and was sad that he didn't have anything to give me so I told DH that even if he couldn't be bothered he should for the DC's to give me a present. So last year when I was 26 he remembered. But he forgot again today he left for work before the children got up at 7.30am so they didn't remind him. Some years I have reminded him during the day and he has bought a card or something during the day, but I didn't remind him when he phoned now, is that petty? My grandad dropped round a card for me and a bottle of wine on sat in front of DH he said 'is your birthday tomorrow or monday' and I replied mon. and his family gave me a few presents yesterday (which Ds1 and DD1 hid for me and gave them to me this morning but DS was still sad that he didn't have anything to give me from him) I feel more crap this year than normal.

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CristinaTheAstonishing · 10/07/2006 09:23

Happy Birthday! That IS rather careless of your DH, not the lack of presents but forgetting your birthday altogether.

beansprout · 10/07/2006 09:27

Do you remind him? It took dh 6 years to learn when my birthday was but I always reminded him near the time, so come the day, things were ok.

Carmenere · 10/07/2006 09:29

Well imo if you are otherwise happy with dh I would just completely right off the possibility of him ever remembering your birthday. I think that being proactive here might help and each year you should take some cash from the family finances and treat yourself and let the dkids choose something for you.

Basically it's rotten that he forgets and imo you would need to put a bit of effort in to forget that often.

Go and treat yourself today, ring him and tell him that you are going out/tell him to get a babysitter because he is bringing you out tonight. But do something because it is not on for your birthday to go unmarked.

Steppy1 · 10/07/2006 09:31

...at least he's consistent...thought about "forgetting" his and maybe Fathers day too, with no fuss so that he gets to see how it feels ?? Think it's gone past the stage of gentle reminders...I have this constant battle with DH (not about mine !!) but with regards his family....I resent the fact that I'm the one that seems to have the responsibility of sorting and sending out the birthday cards for his family as well as mine whilst trying to look after the children and build upa business and support him too !!!

Steppy1 · 10/07/2006 09:31

PS HAPPY BIRTHDAY..go treat yourself !

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Xena · 10/07/2006 09:31

twice in the week and other people did over the weekend

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Roo77 · 10/07/2006 09:35

My dad doesn't remember my mum's birthday, anniversary, valentines day ever. He doesn't remember either of my sisters birthdays. He only remembers mine cus it's the first of the month!But he doesn't do it on purpose. He just can't remember dates. Mum has given up now!

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Xena · 10/07/2006 09:36

I have been showing DD1 things that I would like and I heard her whisper to him that mummy would like the blue strippy top in debenhams (he had plenty of time too that was 9am sat morning)
Things are OK between us we have had a stressful year and he does nothing to help round the house so we have been arguing abit.

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NomDePlume · 10/07/2006 09:44

can you surreptitiously (sp) set an annual reminder on his Outlook calendar, or his mobile phone, or even write it in his diary (if he has one). I know you shouldn't have to, but hey-ho, if you want him to acknowledge your birthday, history has shown that you need to give him a heads up a day or so before.

NomDePlume · 10/07/2006 09:46

FWIW, DH has remembered my birthday since the day we met (pretty much), I'm the one who has trouble remembering whether his is on the 26th or 27th (in fact, I'm ashamed to say that I have to look it up on his passport/driving licence/birth certificate a few days before & ). I'm pretty sure it's the 27th.....

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Xena · 10/07/2006 09:48

he was reminded thurs fri sat and sun

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NomDePlume · 10/07/2006 09:50

oh, sorry xena. I missed those posts. In that case I'd be pretty mad with him.

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Xena · 10/07/2006 10:07

I have told him, and told him not to bother bringing anything home with him. He says I'm over reacting.

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Xena · 10/07/2006 19:31

He bought me a f@~*ing IPOD WTF??? we have 4 small children when on earth would I use it. UNGRATFULL COW I hear you cry, but he has asked me before if I wanted one and he asked me earlier today and I said NO when will I get to use it I asked. But still at 5.27pm he goes into the link buys an IPOD for 50 and ipod tunes for 15. We are skint atm £65 I could get new shoes a new hair cut and a top

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beansprout · 10/07/2006 19:33

Take it back and then go and get what you want. Why do I have a hunch that he actually wants an Ipod?!!

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Xena · 10/07/2006 19:35

I think he does. Far more into music than me and would be able to use it everyday. I don't think I can take back the 15 tunes

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dmo · 10/07/2006 19:43

MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!
i'm very lucky hubby remembers my b/day, annivarsy etc but would be hopping if he forgot
hubby has one let down he never buys for me from boys on mothers day as he says i'm not his mother but that beside the point i'm the mother of his children
tried to forget fathers day but just couldnt got him lots of little presents from the boys and cards

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Xena · 10/07/2006 19:50

funny dmo I got that answer when i asked for help on mothers day 'your not my mother'

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Uwila · 10/07/2006 21:02

Jerk. Not just for forgetting, but especially for telling you you were overreacting.

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