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when you rsvp to a wedding invite do you bother with all that formal 3rd person milarkey?

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 06/07/2006 23:07

I detest it. I know the invite comes in the third person and I know it's the proper way to reply, but I wonderered if anyone actually bothered these days?

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Tommy · 06/07/2006 23:23

IIRC from our wedding, I was just pleased people actually replied!!
How about
Dear so and so
Thank you for the invite to the wedding. We would love to come.
From TWHTSWAH

poisson · 06/07/2006 23:24

no
Dear mates mum
thansk so much or th invitation we cant wait fro the day
love cod and her dh

QueenPeaHead · 06/07/2006 23:27

fraid I do. date at the bottom and everything.
If it is a proper invite that is.

QueenPeaHead · 06/07/2006 23:30

But I DON'T do what a friend does with formal invites. I was nosing on her mantlepiece and she had all these invites which she had written "WMP" or "RU" on.
What does that mean I said?

"With much pleasure" or "Regret unable" she replied.

hahahahhahahahahahaha what is wrong with a tick or a cross?

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 06/07/2006 23:32

in the past I've done the formal "mr and Mrs hatlike people blah blah blah. " (which doesn't work well cos we're not Mr and Mrs) and then put an added on informal "really looking forward to it" or similar at the end. But there's just something so wanky abot the whole thing.

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QueenPeaHead · 06/07/2006 23:34

yes but the sort of people who think that the world will end if they don't send out an engraved stiffy for the wedding will expect it.

and you wouldn't want to upset Araminta's parents, Lt Col and Mrs Crighton Miller (Retd), would you?

cat64 · 06/07/2006 23:50

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poisson · 07/07/2006 08:48

adn WHY put hem on her mantle piece
ponce

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 07/07/2006 08:50

the top of the piano is far more appropriate

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MrsBadger · 07/07/2006 08:56

pmsl at QueenPea's 'engraved stiffy' - not sure my mental image was quite what they actually sent...

We just got a wedding invitation with a printed ready-stamped reply slip that folds into its own envelope. Even had out names on it already - all we had to do was write the number of people coming in a box. Took all the fun out of it.

On the other hand we did get a christening invitation form v close friends with 'don't bother to rsvp, we already know you're coming!' which I thought was quite amusing.

Normally I do as cat64 and take cue from the invite. And we don't have a piano, or even a mantelpiece (sob sob) so they go on the DVD cupboard. Classy, eh?

Gillian76 · 07/07/2006 08:57

Not stuck to the fridge with a magnet?

Wordsmith · 07/07/2006 09:00

I may be a pleb, but I just got to WHS and buy one of those 'acceptance' or 'regret' cards and fill it in as appropriate.

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 07/07/2006 09:07

just thinking about this - do you think it's origins lie in the days when people didn;t actually do this stuff themselves - the valet or butler would have done it, so of course it would be in the 3rd person.

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wilbur · 07/07/2006 09:19

I reply in same style of invite, so if it is posh, I up my act in response. Although when it is parents I know well, I always add an excited PS.

Love WMP and RU - I worked briefly for a v posh lady married to a newspaper tycoon and I did her replies to the million of invites she got. Learned a lot about how the other half live and developed an unfulfilled longing for Smythson notepaper.

Bugsy2 · 07/07/2006 09:28

Don't think it matters these days - most people are grateful for a response (which is a bit sad).
I love doing the third person reply - makes me feel terribly grand and important!!! Its so quirky & British.

Issymum · 07/07/2006 09:29

"adn WHY put hem on her mantle piece
ponce "

With you on that one Cod. Why do people put posh invitations on their mantelpiece? It can't be to remind them to go to the event otherwise a run-in with the dental hygienist, the imminent arrival of the bloke to measure up for a new carpet in the hall and one's cervical smear appointment would all have equal prominence above the fireplace. There can be only one reason - bragging.

All party invitations (us and the girls), appointment cards, school newsletters etc etc are stuck on the fridge. Must get bigger fridge.

hulababy · 07/07/2006 09:31

If the invite is a formal one that iI reply formally too. If informal, I reply informally.

mazzystar · 07/07/2006 09:35

why not just text them then?

i like all that formality - when the occasion calls for it.

acnebride · 07/07/2006 09:36

Too right issymum. If the invite is really posh I get it enlarged on a photocopier and stick it on the front door

i quite like doing posh replies, although the first time i had to do one i just couldn't believe it and kept asking my mum are you sure this is how it is done?

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