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Anyone out there can help me with a "Jewish" question

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ComeOVeneer · 05/07/2006 12:33

Am going to a wedding on Sunday. What parts of me must be covered? EG do I need something on my head, length of dress, how much arm coverage etc TIA.

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ComeOVeneer · 05/07/2006 12:33

It is in a synagouge btw

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Twiglett · 05/07/2006 12:34

head should be covered if married

shoulders and tops of arms covered

depends on synagogue though

suzywong · 05/07/2006 12:35

well we didn't think it was The Little White Chapel, tee hee

Thomcat · 05/07/2006 12:37

Deffo have to have arms covered so if wearing dress take wrap, shawl thing to cover your arms.

If you go with you DH / DP you'll be on seperate side of synagouge from him with all theother women.

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ComeOVeneer · 05/07/2006 12:41

How covered does my head need to be? I have a fascinator but does it need full coverage?

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Twiglett · 05/07/2006 14:02

I have absolutely no idea what a fascinator is .. but basically so long as you wear a hat you're fine .. you don't have to cover all your hair

bundle · 05/07/2006 14:05

here's one

Twiglett · 05/07/2006 14:07

well that's just daft frippery and as a friend I'd like to suggest you don't wear it

.. seriously? ... think you need more of a hat-type thing

Twiglett · 05/07/2006 14:08

something like this

NotQuiteCockney · 05/07/2006 14:09

I don't think a fascinator counts. What flavour of Judaism is it?

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ComeOVeneer · 05/07/2006 14:10

The one I have is from accessorize and is about 1/4 the size of that (more a fancy hairclip really). That means I'll have to get to Brent Cross on Saturday to buy a hat I guess.

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bundle · 05/07/2006 14:10

twig, now you're talking. that'll shame all those women in their sheitls

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ComeOVeneer · 05/07/2006 14:11

Twig that would complement my dress perfectly .

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MrsBigD · 05/07/2006 14:11

you can always just wear a head scarf tied in a fashionable manner

how orthodox is the synagogue the ceremony is being held at? Basically the more religious the more you need to cover up

crunchie · 05/07/2006 14:12

Depends on the fascinator, some are like hats, others like a hairband. I would take 2 options, the fascinator and bring the hat in case.

Orthodox I would suggest full hat, reform/liberal/progressive fascinator

Twiglett · 05/07/2006 14:12

can you not borrow a chapeau?

bundle · 05/07/2006 14:13

could you get away with a mantilla?

PrettyCandles · 05/07/2006 14:14

Dress ought to be at least knee length. Longer if poss, as when you sit down it rides up. Wear tights/stockings.

Fascinator should be fine.

When I go to a church (wedding or otherwise) I wear exactly the same sort of thing as I would to synagogue: no plunging cleavage, shoulders covered, arms covered to elbow, skirt below the knee, tights, etc, but perhaps my idea of what is modest and respectful dress is a cultural thing anyway.

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ComeOVeneer · 05/07/2006 14:14

I don't know how religious that synagogue is (anyone know anything about Stanmore and Canons park synagogue?)

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DumbledoresGirl · 05/07/2006 14:16

PMSL at Twiglett's hat.

If the synagogue is so strict, wouldn't there have been some mention of acceptable attire in the invitation?

NotQuiteCockney · 05/07/2006 14:16

Are the Bride and Groom Orthodox? Or otherwise?

Twiglett · 05/07/2006 14:16

if your dress is red .. which I'm thinking it is .. try this

lisalisa · 05/07/2006 14:17

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lisalisa · 05/07/2006 14:18

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ComeOVeneer · 05/07/2006 14:18

this is the dress I'm wearing. It does come below the knee, but the scarf is very sheer so not suitable for covering arms. I wanted a shrug or something to wear over it but can't find any I like, so I guess I'll use a pashmina to cover arms.

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