This is really pathetic but I can't stop feeling bitter about something that happened yesterday

[Galaxy]

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No - you were wronged! But time to get over it now perhaps

Galaxy. You were stressed and trying to make everything right for your DD's day. You had an agreement and they broke it. You did what you thought was right and they did not do their part of the deal. You were right to stick to your guns and the vicar was definitely wrong to shout at you - very unprofessional and hardly christian-like.

No wonder you felt so upset - your big day had a rubbish start. I'd have been the same and also get more emotional when stressed out.

But it is over now and the day was a success. Try and remember that bit and try and forget the start of the day - don't let it spoil the memories of your DD's day. Hard I know but they really aren't worth it, are they?

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No you're not! I'm very much like this, I'm always really affected when something unexpected and negative happens when I'm prepared for something positive, it's like my emotional train has been forced onto a different track and it's a major effort to get it back on the right one.

You invested emotion, time and energy into a special day for your family and you were let down by third parties, who certainly had no right to have a go. The whole problem was their fault, not yours. I'm glad you managed to put it aside and had a wonderful day otherwise. I'm sure the bad memories will be blotted out by the good soon. Congratulations on the successes of the day!

Are you usually on good terms with the vicar? Would it help to talk it over with him?

If not, you could write to the vicar thanking him for the fantastic service, but saying that it was a shame that poor communication from the Church's "team" meant that both you and the visiting preacher were seriously inconvenienced about the hall. You don't need to specifically name the key-holder, but it will be obvious who should be taking the rap! It may force the vicar to apologise for shouting at you- that was definitely wrong!

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