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What was the best piece of advice you were ever given?

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m1m1rie · 21/06/2006 12:54

Before I started a family, my mum told me that the most important thing was to keep a 'homely' home. She said the things she remembered most fondly from her own childhood were those comforts from home; baking day (the smell when you came in from school), family dinners, clean sheets. It all sounds a bit twee, I know, but if your home is either a public health hazard or an immaculate showhome, nobody is going to feel their most comfortable, and if home isn't your sanctuary (especially as a child), then where is?
Also, my other favourite piece of advice came from the very unlikely source of my MIL (who usually talks complete b**cks!) She advised me to always keep money of my own - don't rely on being provided for. She had always worked 2 jobs trying to keep body and soul together when her children were growing up, but just about everything she earned went on paying for bills and food whilst her husband kept quite alot of his earnings for drinking and womanising. Her money never really went far enough, and they had some desperate hard times, and when she and her husband finally separated, she had nothing at all to her name whilst he left and set up home with another woman and deftly sidestepped any financial responsibilities. I am deeply respectful of this piece of advice as it comes from such harsh experience that it would be foolish to ignore it. I am curious to know what good advice other mumsnetters have carried through life with them - pass it on!!

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Cod · 21/06/2006 12:55

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waterfalls · 21/06/2006 12:56

The best advice I was given was, dont have children, unfortunately I did'nt listen

only joking

niceglasses · 21/06/2006 12:56

One day at a time (said to me when I had me 3rd). Does work.

tenalady · 21/06/2006 13:00

my stepdad, said never go back. But I did, once to a job i had already left and married a boyfriend I ended a relationship with 20 years ago! The first didnt last long and the marriage better pick up an all else im off!

Beauregard · 21/06/2006 13:01

Life's a bitch ,then you die!

SecondhandRose · 21/06/2006 13:02

People only know what you tell them.

MissChief · 21/06/2006 13:03

An Aussie friend once told me
"don't have one foot in the past and the other in the future, else you'll shit all over the present!"
crude but true (wish I could live my life like that but far too backward looking0)

trinityrhino · 21/06/2006 13:04

I like that misscheif, makes sense and makes me giggle

Bramshott · 21/06/2006 13:05

About marriage, that you will fall in love again with someone who isn't your husband, it's just your choice what you do about it.

HowVeryDareYou · 21/06/2006 13:05

Stop worrying about whether people like you or not & think instead "do I like them?"....

Cod · 21/06/2006 13:06

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tenalady · 21/06/2006 13:16

howverydareyou,your name reminds of something out of Charlie and Lola!

robin3 · 21/06/2006 13:20

'Be careful what you wish for'...I think about this a great deal and it helps me to think about how lucky I am to have what I have and not always be wishing for more.

For example DP is always harping on about what we'd do if we won the lottery....personally I wouldn't want to because it would remove a great deal of the purpose and challenge in our lives.

hub2dee · 21/06/2006 13:22

After your first post on mumsnet, when everyone says 'log off now !!!! don't do it'

meowmix · 21/06/2006 13:25

not sure if its advice as such but "this too will pass" - sort of makes you realise that even tho things might not be perfect its only a transient thing and it'll change, or that you may think having the dress/tv/car etc will make you happy but this too will pass

also thet learning opens doors so do one new thing everyday

yorkshirelass79 · 21/06/2006 13:30

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Cod · 21/06/2006 13:33

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cece · 21/06/2006 13:35

a work one

if you have a piece of paper aim to only touch it once, so deal with it and file it straight away. When I don't do this my desk and mind become a mess so wish I could stick to it more!

MissChief · 21/06/2006 13:35

yes, just heard doreen lawrence (mother of stephen)on Jeremy Vine saying how she'd changed since his death, also citing "be careful what you wish for" as she'd always wanted peace & quiet but never got it from her kids...Food for thought..

DumbledoresGirl · 21/06/2006 13:36

My mum and dad have both said to me (separately) "Travel hopefully". I don't know if that is advice as such or more a motto to live your life by, but I find it surprisingly helpful when things are hard. It is the one phrase that I will always remember from them.

sharklet · 21/06/2006 13:38

Maybe a bit twee but it makes for a happier life "try to see the glass as half full not half empty" thats what my grandad used to say. And its true no matter how crap things are theres almost always some positive to cling to and pull you up.

MadamePlatypus · 21/06/2006 13:39

My favourite piece of advice, during a conversation about the stresses of having children and working, was to "hire more staff".

I haven't actually been able to follow it, but it always makes me laugh.

PinkTulips · 21/06/2006 13:39

when dd was born i was given a box of chocolates with the advice 'if it all gets a bit much, sit down, eat a chocolate and breathe!'

she's 16 months with no.2 on the way and it's still how i cope when things get hairy

MissChief · 21/06/2006 13:40

hope you're not still on the same box? must be doing much too good a job if so

PinkTulips · 21/06/2006 13:44

half our shopping budget goes on aldi chocolate each week

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