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Stupid things they said to me in hospital

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emkana · 21/06/2006 08:58

Ds (first time I'm writing that! Weird! ) is all of one hour or so old, two lovely ladies arrive to give me a bed bath (oh the joys of childbirth... so dignified ) and ask me whether I could put ds in the cot now. I answer that he doesn't want to, he wants to stay close and carry on feeding - one of the women answers
"He's just using you as a dummy though, isn't he?"

WTF????

Later, back on the ward, ds in bed with me, another nurse comes and asks whether I want to put him in the cot, I say now as he always wakes up when I try to put him in and he prefers being close to me, says the nurse "Well he can't stay there for the next 18 years, can he?"

?????????????????

I was also told off for keeping ds in with me all night, the midwife said that that was not what they recommended and that I had to be very careful. Strange, I'm sure when I had dd2 not three years ago they were happy for her to be in bed with me.

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emkana · 21/06/2006 08:59

I say no, not now

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tribpot · 21/06/2006 09:02

My cousin had to sign a waiver before the nurses would let her co-sleep with her brand new dd, emkana, unbelievable.

Hope the young one is doing well!

kid · 21/06/2006 09:02

It should be up to you what you want to do with your DS seeing as you are the one that is looking after him. I bet you can think of loads of replies you could have said now, but at the time your mind goes blank.

How are you feeling now?

Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 21/06/2006 09:03

[speechless emoticon]

Glad to be home then eh? Honestly, he's your third, you'd think they'd leave you to it really.

Still smiling here that he's doing so well.

sugarfree · 21/06/2006 09:04

That is strange,Emkana,I thought that was allowed now.
I had a lovely midwife come in to do my obs one morning after ds3 and he was in bed with me.Not feeding,not screaming,just being,and she said "Oh,he's exactly where he wants to be,I'll come back later" If I could have moved I would have kissed her.

How's everything this morning?

southeastastra · 21/06/2006 09:04

what a caring bunch they sound! congratulations again! when i had my csection a nurse just sort of poured a bucket of water over my 'bits' to clean them, very dignified

Kelly1978 · 21/06/2006 09:05

crazy! I co-slept with my dts when I had them last year as they wouldn't settle in their cots. Most new babies don't want to lay in a nasty plastic cot on their own.

FoghornLeghorn · 21/06/2006 09:05

No-one would've noticed that I co-slept with DD the first night in hospital because no body bothered to check on us .
They do come out with some absolutely ridiculous comments don't they

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emkana · 21/06/2006 09:05

I'm okay, he's in my arms the whole time, but that's lovely, dh is dealing with everything else.

Last night I was feeling worried about his breathing, but now he seems better, I hope it wasn't anything really.

As dh says, you worry when you have a new baby anyway whether they're okay, with this one I'll worry that bit more. Needlessly, I hope very much.

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milward · 21/06/2006 09:06

They should respect your parenting choices! What stupid comments made by so called professionals. No wonder bf rates are so low - plus babies need to cuddled & held not just in cots imho. I've had rubbish "advice" in hospital just ignored it. Best wishes xxx

sugarfree · 21/06/2006 09:06

Sotheastra,do you mean the 'bidet in the bed'?
Gawd!I'd forgotton all about them,perching on a bed pan,flat on your back,and a jug of warm water.Undignified but bloody blissful to feel clean for a couple of hours when on bedrest.

Kelly1978 · 21/06/2006 09:08

when I had a section I didn't get anything until I got up for a shower the next morning. Not sure could face the indignity of a bed bath anyway!

southeastastra · 21/06/2006 09:13

yes it was awful, she didn't even pull the curtain around and there were visitors about!!

maddiebean · 21/06/2006 09:18

Morning all
Congrats on the safe arrival of Sebastian Emkana! I had been watching for news...I'm a lurker

Not long before I had dd a newborn died in bed with her mother (after mother had had terrible labour and was absolutely exhausted) in hospital and I'm sure now hospitals have to cover their butts, crazy though, my ds spent first night in bed with me and nobody blinked an eye.

When I was in hospital with ds (dd was 19months) I was told by a midwife that every day I was in hospital (I had had a csection) away from her was causing her distress - in fact she was being spoilt rotten by her father and adoring grandparents...hmmmm.

alexsmum · 21/06/2006 09:25

i co-slept with ds2 on our first night after him being born.(i say slept but how much sleep do you get?)in the morning the midwife came to see me and i sat up ds2 was aslee on the bed.There was a tiny spot of blood on the sheet and she told me off, said he should be in his cot-there was blood on the sheet and i was putting him at risk of infection(i am strep b+) i wondered if she thought he was going to be sucking on the sheets.i discharged myself, and when i told my community midwife she went mad.

alexsmum · 21/06/2006 09:27

oh and she alos gave me loads of grief for going home.when i ponted out that i had ds1 at home she said 'this child is more important now' and i'm like ' er no they are both important' grrrrr.

milward · 21/06/2006 09:29

what's a spot of blood on the sheet when the baby has been through blood in child birth!!

alexsmum · 21/06/2006 09:32

exactly!

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