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I really, really want to move back up North.

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parabelle · 03/09/2013 20:24

Moved at 18 for uni, never went back, really, really missing it.
But, the kids are settled at school (10 and 6), we have good jobs and pensions, it's a nice area. I just don't feel I've ever really settled. I miss my friends from school (still in touch with them). My DH won't consider moving, he's totally opposed to living up North. I would love to raise my children in the area where I grew up. I even miss the rain and bad weather.
Am I crazy to consider looking for jobs in Manchester?

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LittleAbruzzenBear · 03/09/2013 20:27

I know what it's like to never feel settled. It wouldn't hurt to look into jobs, schools etc and put a case together to put to your DH. It's your life too so he should hear you out.

ArbitraryUsername · 03/09/2013 20:30

Tbh, it will have changed anyway and won't actually be like you imagine it to be anyway. And your DH might find it impossible to settle there, so you'd just reverse the situation.

Mosschops30 · 03/09/2013 20:31

Are you me??? Grin

I was bought up up north, I've been in cardiff now for almost 20 years but Newcastle is still home.
I miss it so much but haven't moved for all the same reasons as you. Although I'm separated now but that doesn't make the decision any easier

Mosschops30 · 03/09/2013 20:32

Oh and I now go back once a month and it's still the same, people are the same, friends are the same

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parabelle · 03/09/2013 20:35

Do you think you'll ever go back mosschops?
I just worry now that my kids identify as Southerners so will feel unsettled if we move up North.

DH could live anywhere to be honest, he has few friends and isn't from down South, so long as there was a playstation he'd be fine in a shed.

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parabelle · 03/09/2013 20:36

He just doesn't like Manchester or the prospect of being so close to my family.

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Manchesterhistorygirl · 03/09/2013 20:38

It's article might help.

www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/manchester-voted-best-uk-city-5818914

perplexedpirate · 03/09/2013 20:43

Don't blame you, it's great up here. Smile
In all serious, when I see threads on here talking about pokey flats for £250k I do think whhhyyyy???
You could get a four bedroom semi for that in a decent area round here.
Manchester is vibrant, the countryside (20 mins from Piccadilly) is glorious.
What's not to love?!

nenevomito · 03/09/2013 20:46

I felt like you. I moved back. It never fucking well stops raining and when the middle and south of the country are having a lovely summer, its cold and wet here.

Distance makes the heart grow fonder.

If I'd never lived away, I'd never know what I was missing by moving back.

Mosschops30 · 03/09/2013 20:47

I would like to think so, one day. The kids are my biggest worry, dd and ds2 would be fine but ds1 (8) would struggle he's very settled in school, plays sport for local clubs, lots of friends

ArabellaBeaumaris · 03/09/2013 20:51

Is there a compromise you could find? If he doesn't like Manchester & doesn't want to be near your family that sounds a bit unnegotiable... What about somewhere else in the north not too close to your family?!

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parabelle · 03/09/2013 21:08

That's a good idea arabella, I have thought about the peak district, beautiful area and close to Manchester. Just need a great job there now.

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