Really pissed off - would you be?

[LadyTambaOfTambaTown]

Notice I havent asked if im being unreasonable because I really dont care if I am

As most of you know, Dh moved into his moms last weekend. He has been round every day though to see the kids and we have gone for days out etc. We are keeping things friendly.

I have never not got DH a fathers day card, and as usually got him one and a present this year. He came round this morning and says 'oh my mom already got me one'

And it has really annoyed me for a few reasons:

1. I think it implies that she thinks I am too selfish to have bothered getting him one.
2. I think it implies that she thinks I would use the children as a way of getting at him
3. I just dont like her.

And adding to that, they have come round in new clothes and bought back the ones I sent round for them (he has had them this weekend) It feels like she is totally trying to erase me and step into my shoes. Even down to her wanting to do the induction meeting at the school that DS1 will be starting next week.

Ive had no contact from them what-so-ever since he moved out and I think mil is just pleased to have her little boy back.

Like I said, I dont care if im being unreasonable. I am just pissed off. It doesnt seem to matter that ive made the effort to have him round every day and to go out even though it hurts me to be around him at times, im still portrayed as the nasty wife by mil and i think dh should put that right by like always he never sticks up for his for against his Mommy.

MILs can be wankers.
My ex hasnt seen DD for 4 weeks, even then its always up his mums and never on his own.
She was ill last week, I told him and he said (and i quote) "i dont give a fuck"
Nice

His mother bought him a card from my DD and a present
She thinks the sun shines out of his hairy, sweaty, pasty white ass

No I wouldn't be pissed off, I'd see it as confirming exactly why her little boy was inevitably destined to screw up his relationship with the mother of his children. It is of course, preposterous, but try not to let it wind you up - if anything is worse than MIL behaviour, it's ex-MIL behaviour!

Ladytanmba....no you are most definatley not being unreasonable. You have every right to be pissed off! How dare she be behaving like this, altho it seems that she has been wanting this for sometime and is relishing it too(:( and for you about all this, and her)

PMSL at welshboris re "hairy, sweaty, pasty white ass"

Childish, childish, childish.

It is what some mothers and sons do best in these situations.

Been there myself and, yep- I was pissed off.

Fcukers.

Tamba, she is being a meddling bitch - but then wasn't she always ?

Don;t let her know that she's got to you .... think of the extra pleasure that would give her. YOU can hold your head up high and know that you have behaved impeccably by not using kids to get at (D?)H, depsite what you think of him personally.

Oh btw I would always send the kids in old clothes to hers and keep the new ones. Nothing irritates ex MILs so much.

As for the induction meeting - surely the school wouldn't tolerate mad granny turning up instead of mother? What a total lack of boundaries the old bat's got.

She is totally barmy!

(She also drives me mad at times like today, when dh got here about 11am and mentioned that the boys had already been given a packet of buiscuits each and had drank their way through 2 packs of fruit shoots!!! She always feeds them crap has a huge basket of sweets in her frount room and lets them take as they please)

Ive decided just to ignore it and not mention it, like yuo say, if she knows shes got to me then she will do it again.

Bloody Mils!!

you're doing soooooo well not to have throttled her with your bare hands - wot a BITCH! I think it's an excellent strategy not to rise to any of it - unless it seriously affects the kids in any way of course.

there will be some lovely ways in which you can exact your revenge.... and when i think of some i will let you know!!

wot a stupid cow to be so jubilant that her son is such a sad f**r that he has to come home to her after all he's done. she sounds like she's got an oedipus complex [shudder]

Every time they come back in new clothes, simply sell them.

nah - let her keep buying them new clothes - each time send them to her in their at home grubby garden clothes ( if they have any) Save you money !! I know it must be galling.... but suck it down and don't let it aggravate you. good for not letting it get to you this morning.

Try not to let it get to you.

And, maybe try adn see it from her point of view. Imagine if it were your son that had split up with his partner - what would you do? As a mother, you would, generally speaking, stand by your son, wouldnt you?

Dont take it to heart - she is just being a mother and a Grandmother.

regarding the clothes. always send them round in clothes the MIL has bought. they can be the "going to grannies "clothes.

what she is really doing of course - is affirming her position in the lives of your children becuase she is scared.

regarding things like the fathers day card - and his mother - now you dont have to deal with her i would be very sweet about it - sometimes a little sarcy maybe.

"your mother bought you a fathers day card? how nice of her. you have one off the kids too"