Advice Please....

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doobydoo · 15/06/2006 20:34

I would like some advice.I am nearly 37 and would like some advice on the following.
Would i be mad to suggest to dp that we had another child?
My first was born at 33 weeks,normally and died at 3 weeks .my 2nd 10 years later ended up being an emergency section.I would like another but am scared and wonder what i should do.I would really appreciate your input.

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essbee · 15/06/2006 20:39

No it's not mad at all!! It's also perfectly natural that you're scared considering your history. I'm so sorry you lost your first born, what did he/she die of? and why did you go into labour early? I'm sure you could request an appt with a gynae and talk through your case to see if there's any chance (other than the same chance as everyone else) of it happening again. How does your dh/dp feel about it?

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doobydoo · 15/06/2006 20:45

I had something called polyhydramnious which is an excess of amniotic fluid.When dd was born everything seemed fine but there was bleeding in her brain.This was not with dp now.Who i adore!He is marvellous.When i was pregnant with ds..we asked for an elective caesar and were told..well see how it goes.Everything happened that i didn't want to happen.His head got stuck,midwife hadn't read the notes..i had an epidural then the caesar than probs immediately after.Lucky ds was fine.But consultant was apologetic.I now live in Irish Republic and wonder i should chance it as i am extremely grateful for my son.Not sure what dp thinks.

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nicnack2 · 15/06/2006 20:47

well i think you should discuss it. better to know than wonder.

chickenwings · 15/06/2006 20:50

I think you should go for it... otherwise you might regret it. You still have lots of time :)

Sounds as if you have had a tough time. So sorry to hear about your first child.

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doobydoo · 15/06/2006 21:40

Thanks for advice..sort of want to but am holding back as scared.Maybe i will discuss with dp soonish.Also being in another country will they understand and should i ask for a section?

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chickenwings · 15/06/2006 22:04

I don't think being in another country will matter - it is more a question of finding an understanding doctor.

Unless there is a medical reason why you need a section do whatever you feel comfortable with. I am sure that there is high probability that you would be able to have your next baby naturally if you want to.

Good luck!

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