unreliable and stupid friends! what would you do?

[slinkstah]

on sat night ds stayed round his friends house, his friends mum took them to a concrete skatepark and ds dropped in to a large ramp and fell on to his arm, he was wearing no padding! He came back sunday from his friends house in pain. I assumed it was bruised and put a bandage on it etc.
today at school he fell on his arm whilst playing football and it swelled up, the school called me to pick him up. I took him to the minor injuries unit to get it xrayed and its flipin broken!!
so poor ds is in half plaster and i have to take him to the main hospital to get it full pastered on friday.

I rang my friend to pick up dd whilst all this was going on and she didn't respond to calls and texts and voicemail! so i had to make other arrangements. the thing is she is the one who is on "call" to take the kids when i go into labour! So now i feel like she is not reliable and im in a panic about it!

what do i do about crappy "on call" friend? and what do i do about ds's friends mum who obviously thought taking my ds skateboarding on concrete ramps with NO padding or helmet was a good idea!!!

any advice appreciated

I don't have any fabby advice but can confirm I would be quietly fuming if it were me.

Do you know yet why your friend was not contactable?

i'd find out first what was going on with your friend - could have been an unusual situation. if not, then i'd think about a 'backup' friend you can rely on. is she often like this - not answering texts etc.? and when you do get hold of her is she then generally reliable?

and i'd be furious about not wearing safety equipment and i'd have a word with her, at least to let her know your son's arm is broken.

i heard from my friend she says her phone died after i rang and so she couldn't call me back and she was out shopping!
still doesn't explain why its took her til 8 to call me! looks like i should find a stand in mate to take the kids in labour.

i called ds's friends mum and told her his arm was broke and it happened at the skatepark, she had no idea and said she thought he was fine after his fall. it was all a bit awkward really. im not good at that type of thing and i ended up saying well he's a show off etc etc when i should have been saying FFS why no padding you crazy women are you on drugss!!!
i think i need assertiveness training!!

Well, breaks, bumps, scratches and bruises will happen cant be too protective you know. Ds could of easily done this playing in the back garden and falling off a swing. Is the friend continuously unreliable or is this just a one off? If the former then politely give her the flick. I wouldnt expect to see her around again though, so ensure she is a friend you are willing to lose. Good luck x