Oh cheer me up someone please

[easy]

I don't believe what's happening, As some of you may know, I've had a pretty duff year with a complicated broken hip. DH has nursed me, cared for ds and kept going with his full time job.

Now I'm just starting to walk again, and was hoping to go on holiday, have some days out, clear the credit cards, start life over.

I got a blow last week, when we found dh had a £770 tax bill, eating up the bonus he'd just got paid (which I'd earmarked for the holiday fund).

Today dh has had a meeting with his manager, who says that they may not have a job for him in the next financial year. This after he got a brilliant appraisal, a pay rise and a bonus. His co. was bought out last year, and I suspect he's just more expensive than they budget for their developers.

I just feel like I've been thumped. I can't type for crying, and don't know what to say that's supportive when he comes home. I just feel that they're such unappreciative b*stards (even tho' I know the realities of commerce).

Can anyone give me hope for the future? Does life ever get better?

(Sorry, I know people have worse than this to deal with, but I'm just reeling right now)

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so sorry to hear this easy i'm not surprised you're reeling - it seems so unfair. Sorry, no advice, just hugs ((()))

The thing is, He's been wanting a job change for a while, and is actively looking. We're hoping he'll have something before the end of March anyway, but I'm terrified of having no income. I've never been in that situation ever before, and it really frightens me.

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easy, it might be good news in the long run - if the new company is too cheap to pay him what he's worth, there are probably other companies out there who aren't..when will he find out definitely? If they let him go will they pay redundancy? Will they have to give him some notice? I know how you feel (been there) but it always looks worst right at the start.

oh heck,

I've just exchanged e-mails with dh and he thinks i'm ranting AT HIM !! I'm just enraged.

For the first time ever in my life I feel like getting very very drunk.

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I'm so sorry easy.
You ought to re-read your advice to me it certainly worked here.
There's a little update but DH will return from DD's swimming lesson soon. :0

sorry to hear after everything that you've hit a bad patch

sorry, probably hasn't cheered you up at all

Please don't take this the wrong way but thank you! Knowing that someone else feels as if life has S**t on them somehow makes me feel better!!
I could tell you a sad story but it wouldn't make you feel any better but what I can tell you is that
GOOD WILL COME OUT OF THIS - honest. Just tell yourself that he is going to get a great job, with a higher wage, so you can go on a longer holiday and in the meantime you have a bit of extra time to snuggle up to each other.
I think that if you have a positive attitude then you are half way there. Easy to write but not to do.
My sugestion, you deserve a 'wallow in self pity', so go for it, enjoy it and if a drink helps have one for me. You can always be positive tomorrow!!
Thinking of you XXXX

Thanx, Thanx everyone,

I'm feeling a bit better by now, but just by coincidence my BIL and his wife have taken ds for a weekend with them, so we get 2 days lie-in and some snuggle time, so I'm bound to feel better.

And yes, I know it will all come right in the end, It's just that things seem to hit me hard ATM, so I over-react.

oh and Bunglie, If it made you feel better then good, its an ill wind ....... and that