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What does it mean when a groom gets given a pen at a wedding?

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monkeytrousers · 29/05/2006 17:34

I read somewhere that it was a bit of an insult - but it never said why. Is it?

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monkeytrousers · 30/05/2006 09:46

Dur, I meant when an usher - is that what they call them?

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Rhubarb · 30/05/2006 09:47

Usher yeah. Dunno, why is it an insult? Nowt wrong with a nice boxed fountain type pen!

LadySherlockofLGJ · 30/05/2006 09:47

I knew weddings were minefields but Lord God that is madness.

KommandantColditz · 30/05/2006 09:48

They are expected to write all the thankyou notes, that's what

MrsBadgerAvecUneVoiture · 30/05/2006 09:49

don't think it's an insult at all

at least it's useful - ours wanted, and got, petwer tankards which are no use for anything (except keeping pens in, of course).

Actually DH was an usher ages ago and everyone else got pens - he got an engraved Zippo which he thought was pretty naff.

Rhubarb · 30/05/2006 09:52

It's not like they do much though is it? We didn't have any usher's and I can't say the service went to chaos through lack of them! Didn't have any bridesmaids either - I'm a miserable git!

MrsBadgerAvecUneVoiture · 30/05/2006 10:00

Apart from one reading and directing elderly aunts to the loo, ours didn't do much during the day either. Mostly they were moral support for DH during the morning, where they were definitely needed. The two bridesmaids were solely for moral support for me too!

Rhubarb · 30/05/2006 10:03

I had the whisky for moral support! I did have one erm, whaddya call it? Not bridesmaid but chief matron or summat like that! Anyway it was Custy and she just blubbed at the back of church! I felt as though it should have been me comforting her! Mind you, I can kinda see her point now, if I'd have known then what I know now I would have blubbed too!

zippitippitoes · 30/05/2006 10:05

THe groom?

to sign the register?

zippitippitoes · 30/05/2006 10:06

sorry as a present, sounds quite nice to me!

BudaBabe · 30/05/2006 10:07

lol at Rhubarb!! I still moan at people that they let me marry my DH - why didn't they stop me?. They say they didn't know me then but I don't accept that as an excuse!!

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monkeytrousers · 30/05/2006 10:09

That's alright then, DP was getting paranoid

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Medea · 30/05/2006 10:34

Were we at the same wedding on Sat, monkeytrousers--ushers all got pens.

alibubbles · 31/05/2006 10:42

It's quite common to give a nice pen and a guest book as a present, so everyone can write somethging in the book as it is passed around. Never heard of it being an insult!

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