we move in 11 days...or do we..<angry>

[EvesMama]

just had call from agent of house we're buying to say..deep breath, not the people they're buying from the the next up the line! have decidedor thier solicitor has, that its too soon for the 6th!!!, we've now changed the date three times and i refused point blank to put it back again and harshly said of second from last in chain..its their problem, tell them to deal with it...move into rented/hotel for a week or whatever and put thier stuff in storage..plus my childminding business has already been on hold for so long and c i s have conytacted our vendor(a childminder) to ask her if she has space for a 8 month old baby!!!!!!!!!!!, she passed my details on but i cant do anything till im in there and reg..amd very very weary and

cry..i know im dramatic, but i dont care!..it IS that important to me

I know it is stressful but look at the big picture. You will be in your new house soon and you will be happy and you will laugh about all of this.... Like I now do about all of our problems last October!

have realised why im SO stressed about this..
have got second app at breast clinic today, two weeks earlier than they told me i woul, dont know if its cos i said we were moving on date they wanted me to go back in or theres something wrong?..tomorrow im supposed to be going to a group cbt session and i have no one to have dd so i can go, so my head remains in the shed!...now the move..the only thing i thought was sorted and in the bag is rapidly going tits up and theres nothing i can do to stop it and wether a kick and scream, if it cant be done it cant be done, but i do actually feel as if im gunna throw up thinking about it..am ringing solicitor in half an hour, but i know she wont ring me back till at least 10.30 cos she does other stuff till then
god i wish i could cope better!

evesmama-have you rung the solicitor? how did you get on?

What did the solicitor say?

I didn't know you could have group CBT - I had mine on my own. Can't a neighbour have dd or maybe a local childminder you know for a couple fo hours? That is what I did when I had CBT. I know a couple of cm from school so farmed dd and ds out to them for a couple of hours each time!

dont know anyone round here and TBH i think id best wait for my 1 to 1 sessions as my visit to hosp today wasnt what id hoped so my heads all over the place and although tomorrow may help, the hassle of sorting out someone to take care off dd for 4 hours is just about to tip me over edge(as primrose off fi fi and flower tot says." I AM NOT HAVING A GOOD DAY!)
im going to ring her in morn and explain.
erm..oh yes solicitor..they arn't bloody open! something to do with law society and not opening day after bank hol..arrrgh

oh fUUk..vendor is now on way to agent to start looking for another house..if we can get moved by end of june, she will still buy present house, but is activly looking again now..my solicitor still ahsnt rang me back

Can you visit the solicitor in their office?

Hate to say it but this is not looking good... What does your agent say? They get paid a lot of money shouldn't they be sorting this out???

can you ask for the vendor's number and speak to her (as calmly as you can - a nightmare, I know!) direct? Think it would really help - not enough communication going on here thro that chain - agents prob making it worse!

woman at top of chain not got a house to move into/buy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
agent didnt even know this!!!!!!!!!!!!!
solicitor only found this out today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

told agent that our vedor looking again and asked her to speak to them letting them know if they start again it will be much longer than the proposed 6 weeks, so whynot wait..agent said oh yeah..never thought of that!!!!!!!!WTF

arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhh

solicitor was getting back on to all other legal bods..hmmm

Things are getting stressful evesmama!

Top of chain could rent. Puts them in excellent position to buy - like we did.

Speak to your vendor personnaly - sort it out between you.

Open a bottle of wine and drink copiously.

Problems solved

hiya cece..have spoken to my vendor almostevery day..she says they cant move out as they have 4 children and one of them (late teens) is pregnant. i DO understand but i cant help feleing that if it was me who'd already lost two sales, i move out?..dont know if they want to re advertise house and sell for more as houses up road are going for more but they have a better quality fixture and fittings, larger garden, drive and garage..where as ours is fab, there are things that will need doind and the garage has to be pulled down, with no drive cos its shared and theres a fence down the middle.
oh..really i am devastated..still dont know where we stand?, wether they are looking for something else(told agent to ring them and ask if they understand any new house sale would be longer than proposed 6 weeks??)
have to ring all bill people today to cancel new address for now..still cant start c.minding, still having nitemare getting dd to school..sigh

oh and top of change im told are divorcing so seems she's not prepared to move out and rent..nor are any of the others for that matter!

House buying is madness in this country it needs sorting out!

oh evesmama, i can sympathise with you, and can see why you're getting so stressed and frustrated. we're moving soon too, from lancs to rutland, and its all up in the air as far as dates go. everyone was aiming for the 16th june, but the house we're buying which is the top of the chain are dragging their feet so much, its looking unlikely. the rest of the chain is waiting to exchange. my dh is doing his nut because he's already down there and is sick of driving up and down the m6 and being away from us so much.

have you started packing?, i haven't yet and get a headache just thinking about it.

my whole house is packed

most of dd's toys

just had call from agent..slightly good news..our vendor has agreed that if all can be made official, they will also wait until 17th July..but..agent has to contact thier vendor to see if they all=so agree???

never again..never again!!!!

dont want to post here..bad vibes..but....

what else has happened??

Do you want cheering up - after paying to move my washine machine 2 weeks ago it has now packed up and all clothes still dirty but very wet!

oh no, not more bad news?

blimey evesmama-what a nightmare, cant beleive that vendor at the top of the chain doesnt even have a property

no..good news(ish)..on new thread everything crossed..new moving date..go see!
and poor you what a git about washer..insurance?..or more money!?

Yes looks like I have to splash out on new machine but I do love shopping . Shame about finding the cash for it though!

will try to look for your new thread..