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Can't forgive him! Am I unreasonable?

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mandyrobertson76 · 01/06/2013 15:59

Before I got pregnant with our child I had all the promises that he was gonna be a good dad and hands on etc... So after 17mths of trying and a mc I finally got preggy.
All was good until I hit 20wks,
He spent more and more time in our home office while I was sat in the lounge alone. I developed antenatal depression.
After birth, the hands on dad I was promised was no where to be seen, I was left to do it all.
Our child is now 2yrs old, I have told him I can't forgive him and am not in love with him anymore because of this! He has done nothing to support me, he's put me down and critized me.
When our child was six mths I was walking into my local supermarket when a new dad with his tiny tot was also walking my way, he was on the phone and what he said made me cry,
He said to whomever it was he was talking to " yeh I'm doing the shopping with the baby, well she's done six weeks she deserves a break"
My heart sank, six weeks! I've done six months! I can't even go to the bathroom on my own or get a shower cuz he was too busy to watch her!

Was I expecting too much? Am I overreacting? Should I just forget it? Or am I right to feel the way I do?

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StuffezLaYoni · 01/06/2013 16:03

This sounds rubbish! Sad Have you asked him why he's neglecting you both? It's not fair on you to be left to do anything and it's not fair on DD if her dad won't make time to bond with her.

YoniBottsBumgina · 01/06/2013 16:06

He is a shit. Are you still together?

(Other dad was UR too if his baby is 6 weeks and it's only the first time he's taken her out alone! But beside the point, don't know their situation etc etc)

TheAccidentalExhibitionist · 01/06/2013 16:07

Is he still the same now? Have you sat down and talked all this through? It is the best option if you haven't.
He sounds crap, sorry.

mandyrobertson76 · 01/06/2013 16:33

Yes we are still together just, but he's made me feel so guilty and crap I don't know why I put up with this!
He is making a bit more of an effort with her now but not as much as he should.
We have tried to talk this through but he always make me feel like I'm overreacting and being stupid? I really have had enough.
His only reason he came up with is cuz he was scared to hold her etc... And tried to blame my breastfeeding for taking up all the time with her, she's not bf 24/7 no baby does! He can never admit he's wrong or in the wrong!

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mandyrobertson76 · 01/06/2013 16:38

And he doesn't work full time either! He's home except weekend evenings here and there so not like there is an excuse of working etc.... Sorry for ranting but this is really doing my head in, I just want to disappear!

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