I give up... I just can't cope with this anymore

[nutcracker]

I can't do this anymore. My life is just so shit at the mo. I can't stand to live in this shoe box any longer, the lids have been driving me mad all day, so i've spent most of the day shouting at them. The music coming from upstairs is so loud that it was drowning my radio out. I think i'm so close to the point of breaking up, but what can i do ?? Noone wants to know, the police aren't interested, the council are a bunch of w***s and as for the H/A's, i may aswell not exist.

That is true Jan, I would be lost without MN now.
We are supposed to ring the bloke back tommorow about the house in Kent, but still don't know yet. Dp wants us to say we are interested and go and have alook in half term, although trying to find somewhere to stay is proving to be aproblem. It has to be somewhere very cheap.

hear hear!

SW - They are. Feel a bit sorry for the son though sometimes. His mother went out a few weeks ago, on a bender and didn't come back. He couldn't get in to the flat so had to sleep on the landing. She really is awful.

Nutcracker, I know just how you feel. We lived next door to an alcoholic and druggy too. She was always screaming and banging on our door (we used to hide) One day one of her "friends" knocked on our door, DH opened the door and this bloke offered drugs to him FOR ME!!!!!! DH was very pissed off and stormed off to the police station down the road. When he got there and told them that there was drugs at No 3, they said they couldn't do anything without prove!!!
I used to complain to the council and was told I had to make an offical complaint they would then go to her and get her side of the story and it carried on they would start action, but I was scared to make the offical complaint as she would have known where it came from as the other neighbour was deaf!! So couldn't use her actions to get moved
In the end I used my sons disability to get moved, but hell,I feel for you!!

nutcracker don'ttake any notice of the police - you keep calling - every night if you have to - they have to log the call and you tell them if they don't respond you are going to complain - say you are worried about the type of people coming round if drugs are being sold there - if you make enough of a nuisance of yourself in the end they will do something just to get you off of their back - please please ring them they have a duty - we pay tax afterall which pays their wages - to deal with all calls - you can also ring the local number for the police station after ringing 999 - give it a couple of hours and hound the hell out of them - as for the environmental health - get yourself a diary and fill it in - send them a letter saying you did not receive their sheets so are filling in your own diary which you will forward to them - put how it is effecting your health and your marraige and your kids lives - if you can see if they are behaving differently at school/nursery and get a letter from one of the teachers - go see the doctor again and I know this sounds awful but really go for it (I am sure you won't have to ) cry, break down and ask them to get involved - even just by writing you a letter saying ow it is effecting your health.

As for moving far away from your family and friends - I'm not sure that is the best idea, you sound like you need people around you regardless.

Please step up your campaign and people will have to llisten - ring EH every day if you have to - you will get there eventually - and if all else fails do things to make their life hell, taxis, pizzas the works, turn your radio up really loud I'd probably tip bleach into their shoes if they are lined up outside too - but then I can get a bit crazy sometimes - needs must honey - go make a nuisance of yourself and you will get a result with a bit of luck.

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sorry to hear about all this nutty, it sounds awful. I think you should take secur's approach and just keep hassling every day!

I read your other thread and I feel concerned for you about possibly moving far away from friends and family with things as they are with your dh - it could end up being a mistake to isolate yourself from your closest support network

hope i haven't spoken out of turn - really feel for you and pray that you'll find somewhere else to live VERY SOON! take care X

O.k, mot feeling much better today to be honest and am seriously thinking of changing the areas i am down for. I really don't want to but needs must i think. I'm hoping that if i show i'm willing to compromise that i will get some say in exactly where it is. I have to be so careful though about which properties i show an interest in becuase i will only get one offer and if i turn that down i've got to wait another year before i can be put back on the medical priority list.
We do regularly go around the eststes but the empty ones have always been allocated. My H/A and Council will not give out my exact position on the lists, they usually just say that i'm in a good position or have a good amount of points, but what they mean ius you will be waiting forever.
Your right Twinkie about not moving away, i just wouldn't be happy to do it at the mo.
I have letters off my doc, H.V, psychiatrist and Home Start but they just aren't taking any notice.

Spacemonkey - You are right

for what it's worth, i think you're amazing for staying sane in the middle of all this

things WILL change for the better - don't give up and keep hassling the bastards!

Right, i am going to force myself to go to the shop now, as i'll only feel worse stuck in here all day. Thanx again everyone

hiya,

i know exactly how you feel. the 3 of us are living in a 1 bed flat,the council don't wanna know.
the people who live above us got evicted, our landlord gave them 6 wks notice, then on the night they had to move they went to the council who housed them straight away cause they had nowhere else to go. i sometimes think doing things the right way gets you nowhere.

good luck with it all - it'll work out in the end.

Elli01 - A similar thing happened near to us. A family got evicted from their maisonette and because they had nowhere to go the council found them a private let (a house) and they got the rent paid with Housing Benefit. Bloody ridiculous i think. If you are getting evicted then thats your fault and it should be up to you to find somewhere else.
I threatened to stop paying my rent in october because we were without hot water and heating for over a week. I was toild that if i didn't pay, after 2 weeks i would be sent an eviction notice.
Whereabouts do you live Ellie ??