I'm hiding under a thin disguise just in case anyone is checking.
I have two DDs, 16 and 14. I split with their father when they were very small. Several years later I found out their father's GF was working as a prostitute, he was making hardcore porn films with her and selling them on the internet, and they had several porn websites too. I discovered this from my eldest DD. He sent her several emails when she was 11 years old inviting her to look at his websites and she had done, in all innocence. She kept this a secret from me till she was 13. After she told me I restricted contact to supervised meetings in public places such as restaurants. He then took us to court. Defending this complicated case cost us £10,000 and caused enormous stress. The court decided that he should have no contact at all, and did not even grant parental responsibility.
My eldest DD became ill, suffered from stress and depression, fits of fainting and vomiting, and took an overdose at one point. I attribute this to the trauma of the court proceedings etc.
Three years later, my eldest DD has been enormously difficult and has dropped out of school and left home. She is living in a hostel. Immediately after leaving she resumed contact with her father.
She has told me that already she has been introduced to all his 'escort friends' who are 'very open about what they do for the money'. She thinks this is refreshingly honest, but I see it as her father trying to make her think this is normal, a kind of grooming. He has offered her a flat to live in which would mean leaving her job, suspect if she were to take him up on it he would find her a job IYSWIM.
I'm unable to protect her any more. However my other DD is now being attacked. DD1 keeps phoning her and telling her how great it is at dad's, how much money he has, how much he misses her. DD2 is very naive, innocent and easily led. All this is making her feel upset and confused. She even feels guilty for making her father feel bad. I've explained and explained that it isn't her fault, but she's hurting inside.
I received a letter from her father early this week saying that he plans to go back to court to try and overturn the court order and resume contact with her. Obviously I have contacted my solicitor. I'm waiting for his advice.
In the meantime I've talked to DD1 and asked her not to phone here from her father's house or talk about him with DD2. But I've just found out that last night DD2 was contacted on msn by her father's GF's daughter who passed on his phone number. She was then silly enough to call him.
I've confiscated her mobile and grounded her. I'm at my wits' end wondering how the hell I can protect her. Help.