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Lucky or godgiven right?

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LoveMyGirls · 15/05/2006 09:28

How many of your dp/dh's/ kids do the housework?

i know as women we are expected to do everything and if any of the members in our family "HELP" then we say thank you but really if we have family that "help" are we lucky or is it our godgiven right for them to clear up some of the mess they make.

in my house we all do our share and we expect everyone to say thank you for our contribution to nice tidy, clean house.

dp- irons his own clothes, tidies up, cleans and occasionally makes meals (sandwiches/ stuff for the kids)

me - mainly cleaning, washing, cooking, tidying etc

dd1 (aged 6) puts own washing away, keeps bedroom clean and tidy, scraps her own plate and puts in sink, tidies general mess (toys and cushions on sofa)

dd2 only 7mths old so nothing yet.

what do your dp/dh's/ kids do?

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LoveMyGirls · 15/05/2006 09:28

should have said our house Blush

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PanicPants · 15/05/2006 09:32

I'm quite lucky as me and dp are a bit of a team i.e., he puts the washing on before he goes to work so when I've fed ds it's done and I put it out to dry and then put it away.

dp empties the dishwasher in the morning, I then tidy, clean house as I go, hoover etc and I cook meals for us and ds.

when he comes in he does the bedtime routine with ds as well.

Ah bless him, it's only when you write it down do you see how lucky you are sometimes.

Although dp does make a lot of mess, so I'm constantly clearing up behind him

fairyjay · 15/05/2006 09:35

As far as chores are concerned, dh and I are both capable of doing anything that needs doing, and he is quite happy to do his share. But we both work - together - fulltime, and it would be totally unfair for me to be responsible for all chores.

However, I do find that when it comes to organisation, it's down to me, and if dh does something (like pack ds's cricket bag for school or arrange a hairdressing appointment for dd) he expects a pat on the back!

hulababy · 15/05/2006 09:39

Me and DH work as a team and the housework gets done between us. Both me and Dh agree that on the whole my 2 days off, at the moment anyway, is to spend time with DD, age 4yo. We both will put loads of washing on. DH does all of the ironing for us all. I do pretty much all of the supermarket shopping (albeit online and the odd shop), menu planning and cooking. DH deals with the dishwasher and putting pots and dishes away. We both tidy and vacuum, although I still do most of that as I will do it on days off to keep on top of it. He cleans kitchen whilst doing dishwasher after meals. I do the proper kichen cleaning. We both clean bathrooms, although again I will do quick wipe rounds on my days off occasionally too. I am only one who has ever cleaned the windows! DH is reposnsible for car cleaning and mowing the lawn.

DD is only just 4yo but she helps to tidy toys and books away, helps clear the table after dinner and loves the chance to wash the dishes occasionally.

alligator · 15/05/2006 09:51

In our house we are all expected to help out. Hte kids have certain jobs they are expected to do. DD is 2 and sets the table and helps clear after. She is also expected to help tidy her toys etc. Dss when he is round does hte washing up after dinner and makes his bed and keeps hsi room tidy. Dp does the bulk of the housework tho as he is a SAHD but I'm responsible for organisation, bill paying, shopping, ironing and putting clothes away (dp gets them as far as the hotpress if I'm lucky).

Tortington · 15/05/2006 09:54

we all muck in - unfortunaltey unless i act like asergent major nowt gets done. there are notes in this house cellotaped to the telly. i go to work and leave a note saying " dd clean kitchen sides. ds clean living room. dh - anychance of you lifting a finger? just becuase you have a full time job - it doesn't preclude you from any other damn chore."

that not was left on friday.

dh cooks mostly and irons.

puddle · 15/05/2006 10:04

This is one of my bugbears. Dp does a lot of the shopping, cooking, tidies up. But he will very rarely do anything without guidance. So I can leave him a list of stuff and he'll do it all happily but will rarely look round and spontaneously do a job that needs doing. I find it extremely annoying.

My children (6 and 3)don't do enough. We are about to have a big clear-out and car boot a loads of toys and then they'll be expected to keep theirt room and their things sorted and tidy. At the moment we're bursting at the seams.

PanicPants · 15/05/2006 10:10

puddle you are so right. Thats how it is eactly in our house too.

Enid · 15/05/2006 10:12

my dh does pretty much everything Blush

I sit around being amusing and playing with the children Grin

louismummy · 15/05/2006 10:24

puddle that is the same in our house. and if he does something spontaneously he expects a big pat on the back!!

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