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Think I might be in a load of grief!!

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damnit · 10/05/2006 15:22

Exp turned up earlier to collect the kids. A stupid row followed and he made some snidey comments and I saw red. I told him that he couldn't take baby ds and went to take him back, he wouldn't let me, so I slapped him around the head to get him off. Not my finest hour, but there you go. Anyway, apparently he has rung the police and they are coming to see me this evening.

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Northerner · 10/05/2006 15:25

Oh dear. poor you.

Don't worry too much, even if the police do come just explein to them what happenned. They can hardly arrest you can they?

Mascaraohara · 10/05/2006 15:29

Tell them he provoked you.. they'll do nowt.. they've down nowt about the wanker that father my dd and he's done much worse that a clip round the ear..

I know you must be really stressing but really try not to worry too much. Easier said than done though.

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damnit · 10/05/2006 16:01

I'm assuming the police aren't that bothered as they would have come straight round. If they do come, it's bound to be when the kids are here.

He has also said he wants to take me to court now for contact. I told him to go right ahead, I have let him have as much access as he wanted and he regularly turns down opportunities for extra visits.

He has also said that he doesn't want to see or talk to me again. Not sure how thatwill work.

Not sure why I lashed out, probably 2 years worth of frustrations. It is 2 years tomorrow that I left him. I changed my name btw in case he's lurking.

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nightowl · 10/05/2006 16:35

he phoned the police because you slapped him????????

PinkKerPlink · 10/05/2006 16:42

I think he is bluffing

why on earth would he want to take you to court when you have let him have the kids as and when he has liked? I think he is purposely trying to get your back up

just try and stay calm when he comes back

I doubt the police will be bothered, its not as if you glassed him or anything

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damnit · 10/05/2006 16:58

You made me laugh with the bottled comment PKP.

Will have to see if anything happens later.

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mousiemousie · 10/05/2006 17:06

Could you just deny that you slapped him? Who would even know?

Freckle · 10/05/2006 17:08

Were there any witnesses? I presume the children were there and likely to confirm what happened? If not, deny it and say he's trying to stir up trouble.

If they were, claim he provoked you by taking baby ds when he wasn't supposed to.

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damnit · 10/05/2006 17:15

Dd saw it. He was bloody provoking me and he wouldn't give ds to me, so that's true anyway. I think he has probably been waiting for me to lose it and now of course, I have played right into his hands. How bloody stupid am I?

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controlfreaky · 10/05/2006 17:19

poor you. if you possibly can i should be frank re level of frustration / provocation involved and a little contrite (acknowledging it wasnt ok to slap him). cant believe they will be that interested. ticking off i should think at worst. if it seems more serious i should get some legal advice but cant imagine you will need to do that. let us know?

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damnit · 10/05/2006 18:04

No visits yet!

My mum is here now incase they do turn up. If i'm not online later, it's because they've taken me away.

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PinkKerPlink · 10/05/2006 18:08

they wont take you anywhere you lunatic:o

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damnit · 10/05/2006 18:11

I was sort of joking! Shouldn't joke though, someone will post soon, telling me that I should be locked up and I'm a terrible example to my children etc etc.

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PinkKerPlink · 10/05/2006 18:15

well you are a disgrace

fattiemumma · 10/05/2006 18:28

now come on ladies.

i agree that you were provoked and i doubt the police will do anything but tell you you are a very naughty girl and slap your wrist

but i would just like to say that if this post was saying that HUBBY had seen red and slapped her then you would all be advising she calls the police and that tey use every law imaginable to get the man behind bars.

isnt it a little unfair and rather (dare i say) sexist of us to poo poo what has happened becasue the violence was from a woman towards a man?

nightowl · 10/05/2006 18:35

the police would do nothing about a man slapping a woman either tbh. not for one slap?

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damnit · 10/05/2006 18:39

Fair point FM. If someone was trying to take your baby though, wouldn't you do whatever was necessary to stop them?

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sparklemagic · 10/05/2006 19:02

damnit, of course the police won't be interested! Sure you'll still be on here later....

Fwiw, my personal view on this is that, as you say, the frustrations have spilled over. So I think this is a BIG warning that you and your ex have to deal with things differently from now on, so that this can never happen in front of your kids again. Children witnessing physical conflict between their parents are damaged, there's no two ways about it. And to have it relating to them (eg a literal 'tug of love') is doubly damaging.

I don't mean you and ex have done irreperable damage today, of course not, but if this were to continue after today your kids are on thin ice..

I only say this because I have worked with kids for years many of whom are still dealing with the fallout from this sort of situation between their parents.

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