A date with someone from the internet - how to stay safe?

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Ive changed my name because I am quite ashamed that Ive had to use a dating site to find a date . I havent been out since I had dd 18 months ago and as a SAHM I dont get the opportunity to really meet people other than other moms at P&T groups etc.

I have been chatting to a man online for about a month now. We talk on msn everyday and he also calls me once a day on the phone. We have swopped photographs and we seem to have alot in common.

He lives at the other end of the country and is we have arranged to meet tonight. I have to finalise details of where. I dont think its a good idea to have him meet me at my house. He doesnt have my address and that is how i'd like to keep it until I know I can trust him.

So any tips on how to stay safe? He is booked into a B&B, should I meet him there?

make sure you meet somewhere public.

have fun and stay safe

Tell someone exactly where you are meeting him and at what time
Take a mobile with you
I would meet him at a pub or restaurant becuase that will be a lot busier than at his B&B
Good luck - he must be keen to have travelled all this way to see you and be staying over night!!

also make sure you have plenty of money for a taxi home

He seems really lovely and genuine but with it being the internet he can pretend to be anyone he wants.

I was thinking of meeting him at the B&B because he will be registered there and I will be seen leaving with him and if anything does happen the police will know who he is.

If I meet him in a pub or something, no-one will know who we are, so as soon as we walk out the door, if i disappeared people wouldnt have known who he was and would only be able to give a vague discription. Does that make any sense?

I am probably being over anxious about the whole thing, and I do think he is lovely but I keep reminding myself that you can never be sure.

hey i met a bloke of the internet, i arranged to meet at a busy restaurant in the middle of town, ( lots of people around) i also got a taxi down there and sent him a tex 5 mins before we were due to meet saying taxi was late will be there in 10, could you wait outside for me. i then got the taxi to drive past so i could check that he was who he sent the photo of. i got dropped off round the corner, so i could compose my self and walk calmly towards him aswell so i didnt look a tit getting out of the taxi but that part is opptional. also have a taxi booked for 2.5 hours later, so even if he is who he said but you dont like him you have a getaway plan, and dont have to worry about offers of i will walk you home, come to b and b etc. ( unless by then you like him etc and then can cancel taxi)

also ask for a unusual request, eg, not near air con, or a weird drink or something that is slighty odd to normal people. that way the staff stand a chance of remembering you etc, but you dont need to show your knickers etc to be noticed.

also have whoever is minding your dd ( mum or sitter etc) to ring you in an hour. that way they can confirm you are safe. if you dont want them to know the truth make up a reason, e.g, can you let me know if dd is ok, or waiting for job interview will be within the hour can you let me know etc.

sorry it is so long, but i was given this advice and i felt much safer. hope you have a lovely time and you end up cancelling the taxi home!!! lol

must stop using etc!!!
etc... lol

Nothing to add to what amyjo said, but good luck! I met my dp on WAP, and we've been together 3.5 years and had twins boys. It is hard to get out and about when you have kids, I had a dd and ads from a prev marriage, it's nothign to be ashamed of!

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you might want to take a look on mn at a recent thread - chat - WARNING please read. it happened that the guy was real dodgy. meet in public and have plenty of ways to make a sharp exit. dont believe last minute changes that can get you on your own. seem to remember something on the news about a woman being assaulted in a b&b on a date. other wise - have fun :)