so annoyed with my dp....

[aprilgirl1]

just needed to rant...... he works away and is hme at the weekend and we have arranged a bbq, ive invited everyone and hes just called to say he doesnt fancy it anymore as we cant afford it ( which is bullshit ) and if thats the case that we cant afford a bbq, what the point in having him work away for 6 weeks at a time, if we cant affoprd a poxy bbq ( 6 people ) im so pissed off n crying writing this, he wont evn listen just said no he wasnt having it, now i have to tell people they cant come! wanker! furious

I don't know what to say but i know how annoying that can be.

Tell him he has to call and cancel everyone- since it's his decison to cancel.

I would go ahead and have it anyway

Have the barbeque anyway and tell him he isn't invited.

get him to call and cancel everyone! Why should you have to if he has decided to cancel it?

Ignore him - send him to the pub for the day or something, I presume that you live as a couple and that you share a home? If so he has no right to stop you having friends over, all he has to do is stay out of the way. He is being a bully, stand up to him!

I think if he refuses to call and cencel and tells you to do it, you should have it anyway.
I'd be angry as well.

thing that pisses me off the most is that he was the one that mentioned to to every one so ive done the organising just been on the phone to him asking if he's asked his side of the family yet, n he just went off on one saying he told me it wasnt definate ( so why did he tell everyone to keep this sat free) thing is also my family are the mose generous family anyway and are all rallying round who's making salad, whos bringing wine ect, feel like such a fool just text my mam n told her to hang fire cos dp is being an arse hole!! im so mad if id have called him and asked him if i should start arranging the bbq now he'd have kicked off with me that i hadnt done it already... think he just likes kicking off with me!! so so angry!

agree with Carmenere

just have the damn bbq, and to hell with him

yeah we live together ive only been there a couple of months ( he lived there previously with ex so i need to make it feel like my home too cos i dont even wanna be there) so having my family there was important to me! n just got things how i want them, pregnant and just got nursery done, so i wanted to show my aunty and uncle where im living

oh just ignore his silly tantrum! i know its fustrating but he will either come round to the idea or stay away and you can have a nice time with your family. agree he is being a complete arsehole and you dont need the stress of this pathetic arguement whilst you are pregnant. he needs to get a grip.

You can get bbq coals really cheaply from Willkinsons (£2.99/bag) and you won't use them all.
Factor in your contribution to the food pile and drinks for yourself and your partner - our friends always bring what they'll drink - (which I assume you'd consume anyway on a normal night in anyway) and I don't see why you'd need to spend more than £15.
I would have thought getting the house and garden ready was more effort and wonder if that's really the issue. Come the w/e my dh really appreciates the chance to chill out and do nothing. Would try and talk to your partner about it obliquely if I were you. "You must be feeling really tired...." kind of thing.