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Not invited to childs party - would you invite them to your childs party?

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kid · 08/05/2006 19:51

DD hasn't been invited to someones party that is coming up, I don't mind, saves having to buy a present
But, DD is asking if this child can come to her birthday party. What should I do, do I let DD invite them or not?
Its not for a few months anyway but DD has started asking already.

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starlover · 08/05/2006 19:52

i would.. if dd wants them there.

what will you say otherwise? "no dd you can't invite them because ages ago they didn't invite you to theirs" ????

crunchie · 08/05/2006 19:52

Of course you do. I had 4 friends each to my DD's party this year as we had just been to Disneyland as a present and we didn't doa big party. She has been invited to loads.

PinkKerPlink · 08/05/2006 19:52

just let them have who they want

WigWamBam · 08/05/2006 19:54

If my dd wanted them there then I would invite them - I don't have the energy to keep tabs on who's invited her and who hasn't!

hulababy · 08/05/2006 19:55

I would let her, yes.

SleepySuzy · 08/05/2006 19:56

Absolutely!

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kid · 08/05/2006 19:57

fair enough!

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kid · 08/05/2006 19:57

I did think that would be the outcome BTW

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Twiglett · 08/05/2006 19:58

yes.. what will you teach her if you don't?

blueteddy · 08/05/2006 19:58

I would.

mousiemousie · 08/05/2006 19:59

the kids should choose who comes to their party...

and the adults should stop stresing about the implications of this

cece · 08/05/2006 20:02

I would and I have.
Life is too short to worry about stuff like this.
Let your child chose - saves lots of stress.
DD writes her own list. The only rule she has to invite back anyone who's party she has been to that year.

juuule · 08/05/2006 20:17

I would, too.
They can't be invited to all the parties and if dd wants them at her party, well why not?

Hallgerda · 08/05/2006 20:30

I agree with mousiemousie - except under exceptional circumstances I would give my children a free choice over whom to invite, up to an agreed maximum number. I would not insist on them inviting those who had invited them to their parties, as friendships change over time, and are not always reciprocal.

spidermama · 08/05/2006 20:32

I'd definitely invite them. It's petty to do tit for tat invites. My dd completely forgot to invite the girl who was suddenly her best friend two or three days later.

DumbledoresGirl · 08/05/2006 20:38

I would definitely invite them if my child wanted them. It happens all the time IME, both ways, ie my children have also been invited by childen they have not invited themselves. It doesn't bother me one bit. You do not know what restricitons were placed on the child who did not invite your dd, eg she might have been told she could only have 5 friends whereas you are allowing your dd 10 friends.
Don't worry about it.

mrsdarcy · 08/05/2006 20:55

I'd let her invite them but make the invitee cry when no-one was looking.

LIZS · 08/05/2006 21:02

I would. By then they may be best of friends or it may simply be that this child has got more limited numbers and her mum has asked those she knows best.

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kid · 08/05/2006 21:43

mrsdarcy

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Thomcat · 08/05/2006 21:46

If my child wanted them there then yes.

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kid · 08/05/2006 21:51

DD has just decided herself that she is having a party, it hasn't even been confirmed but she was writing a list tonight. I think its quite sweet that she is so organised, don't know where she gets it from!

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