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Medical Termination

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madmarchhare · 05/05/2006 16:44

I was in two minds whether to post this or not, but given that everyone is already aware of my circumstances given my pathetic attempt to name change I thought I might as well.

Has anyone had a medical termination without it being because they have m/c?

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pucca · 05/05/2006 16:50

Yes i have, don't know of your situation but ask me anything you want to know.

xx

serenity · 05/05/2006 16:53

Yes, but it was a long time ago, so not sure if my experiences then would be relevant now iyswim.

I'll try and help anyway I can though.

WharfRat · 05/05/2006 16:56

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madmarchhare · 05/05/2006 16:56

Long story short, its the way Im heading due to nightmarish previous pregnancy.

I know Ive made the right decision, but I dont know what to expect, if its the right option.

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madmarchhare · 05/05/2006 16:57

Yes, that is what I mean Wharfrat.

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pucca · 05/05/2006 16:58

Oh i didn't take the pill, i could have done if i had wanted but chose the surgical route instead as it would be over quickly iykwim, i have heard the pill option is long anddrawn out and not nice.

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madmarchhare · 05/05/2006 16:58

Just feeling anxious about the whole thing really, its not your general every day thing to chat about is it?

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serenity · 05/05/2006 17:01

Only you can decide if it's the right option really. It was for me, and although it made me very sad at various points in my life, if I could go back I'd make the same decision again.

I went and read your other thread, and your previous pg sounded horrendous. I think you need to make sure that you are absolutely 100% sure that this is what you want to do though.

pucca · 05/05/2006 17:01

Yes i know, but it happens Sad

I had mine 5 yrs ago, and i was 12 weeks, i went private as if i had gone nhs i would have been over 12 weeks iykwim.

What do you want to know? and i feel for you i really do, it was a hard decision for me but the right one.

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madmarchhare · 05/05/2006 17:01

Well, thats the thing, the little info I can find points toward what you say pucca. I know theres never going to be any 'positive' comments as such, but I wondered if anyone had anything else to say about it.

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WharfRat · 05/05/2006 17:02

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serenity · 05/05/2006 17:05

I had a surgical one as well. I cn't think of anyone I know who had the other who I could pump for information, sorry.

Hopefully another MNer might know.

pucca · 05/05/2006 17:07

Tbh honest for me, it was very easy and simple (the actual having it done) i felt i should have been in more pain or something.

I went in around 10am, was asked to get undressed and put a gown on, and they gave me a belt type thing to put around my waist (to attach a pad after proceedure was done)i got on the bed, and went to sleep. Woke up it was all done, did have a bit of period type pain and obviously blood loss (not major) i had to walk around and go the loo before i could get dressed and go, they gave me pain killers and a number to phone if i had any problems, made me have a drink and a sandwich before i went.

A couple of days after having it done, i did have quite a bit of pain (period type) but painkillers got rid of it.

pucca · 05/05/2006 17:09

I went to the BPAS btw. As i said before it was too easy imo, the guilt afterwards i think is the hardest thing to deal with, i felt i should have been in more pain or something, even though i knew i had done the right thing for me and the baby the mental side of dealing with it all was very hard.

pucca · 05/05/2006 17:12

Sorry if i have offended anyone, but i wish at the time i had someone who could have told me what happens etc, instead of going and not knowing what would happen.

yeahinaminute · 05/05/2006 17:21

Madmarchhare I don't know your particular circumstances but if this is something that you may have to experience then I can sympathise.
It's bloody shit and I won't tell you it's easy - I had a "medical" termination at 23 weeks ( one year after a still - birth at 42 weeks) I had a fairly severe car crash at 18 weeks and it was discovered through the follow up scan that our little boy had several very severe complications -it was a bloody tough decision - hence it took us so long to actually agree to it - but I know it was the right one - I was given the various pills and medication and gave birth naturally ( in a rose garden of all places - as I was on a walk to try to speed things up - it worked !)
I just think you have to think long and hard about it and make sure you have been fully appraised of all the facts.
6 months later I had a DandC after a missed miscarriage at 14 weeks.
If you want to chat/rant/rage/ ask questions about it I'd be happy to give you my e-mail address.... Chin up love

fattiemumma · 05/05/2006 17:25

yes i have. about 9 months ago. dont necessarily want to go into details here as its a very long story and dont really want to hijack but if you want to know anything i am happy to answer. you can email me or private message (is that what its called?)

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madmarchhare · 05/05/2006 20:51

Thanks for your replies. I had to go earlier.

I appreciate your honesty and do understand those of you who dont want to go into too much detail. My email account is shared so dont really want to go there, thank you for your kind offers.

Serenity, most days Im 100%, then others Im 99%. I imagine thats just the guilt kicking in though because I know I cant go through it again.

Ironically, me and DH had just decided that he would go for the snip, so we sort of came to our decision fairly quickly iyswim.

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NotAnOtter · 05/05/2006 20:55

mmh i know its different and i dont want to but in but i had missed m/c and chose medical route...i found it painful and aside from the distress i felt it dragged on due to gap between tablets...
If i had the same decsion to make i would choose surgical option - none are without risks but at least you wake up and it is over not dragging on for days and days. Plus it bloody hurt i needed gas and air and then codeine (strong ones) once home. Good luck and hugs x

NotAnOtter · 05/05/2006 20:58

i also checked it out on internet AFTERWARDS and a lot of people seemed to feel as much pain as i did and regret not choosing surgical option hth

starlover · 05/05/2006 20:58

yes, i have madmarchhare.

i went to the bpas. i got it done for free because I had a referral from my GP, which i presume was due to mental health issues.. they will take things into account.

i also dipped between being 100% sure, and then not so sure... but afterwards I knew i had done the right thing

starlover · 05/05/2006 20:59

puccas description is identical to my experience too

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madmarchhare · 05/05/2006 21:02

Shit, I didnt realise it could involve gas & air.

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pucca · 05/05/2006 21:42

I didn't have gas & air, it was a needle in the arm.

Good luck with your decision and just give me a shout if you ever need to talk.

Take care xxx

starlover · 05/05/2006 21:49

i also had a needle...