new thread from CKMUM about womens aid

[CKMUM]

cant post on old thread for some reason. I tried once again to go but after DD1 having chicken pox when i was going to go before, DD2 now has it. I decided to give up on idea and spoke to doemstic violence unit at police station instead. I have often tried getting help with a mocve from health visitor and social services but got nowhere.

Now i have changed locks and feel safer and also got a friend supporting me the police have spoken to health visitor and now i don't want her involved she is pestering all the time, and social services are ehavily involved.

I suppose is hould be glad they are taking things seriously now but I'm seriosly p*d off that when i ask for help they do nothing but when other professionals speak to them they listen

Can i ask how you got your partner to leave?
sorry dont know your circumstances etc, could you give some background because i really need to speak to some one with this experience.

The posting on old threads problem is now solved. I have put a link into the original leading to this update for you CKMUM.

CKMUM - I have read your other thread - big hugs to you

I hope that you manage to sort this situation out so that you and your children are safe

If you do end up in Wales I live in Carmarthenshire and would gladly do anything I could to help :)

he left after i involved the police but now i have social services on my back i feel even worse, more scared of them than husband

((Hugs))
If you get an injunction, then surely ss will leave you alone, as it will show them you are protecting your kids? What have they said to you? Health visitors want seriously burning sometimes - they are useless and make problems where there aren't any just to make themselves look good to their managers. Tell ss you've got support from women's aid, and you will get your ex banged up if he tries anything. That might work. If he's not threatened to hurt the kids and he doesn't threaten you in front of them, I don't see how they can stick their nose in. Have you told a GP the effect their and HV's interference is having on you? Might be worth a try - they could tell them to back off for you.
Actually the "HOMES" scheme could be OK for you, if you did want to move elsewhere. The councils help you to move anywhere in the country, especially if you have evidence of DV. That way you get your own home without going into a refuge. Not sure how long you'd have to wait. Have a look at your council's website under housing or see if they will rehouse you where you live. If you stay, then maybe police can put in a panic button for you.

thanks, they do seem to have backed off now so shpuld be ok

i have had very recent experiance of this so know how you must be feeling.

even as a social worker SS really piss me off!
basicly they see it as neglect if you dont leave straight away and so theyw ill kep badgering you.

As Charlene has said if you are able to obtain a non molestation and residency order they will calm down a little as they will agree you are doing all you can reasonably do to protect yourself and your children. it also means that if your ex attempts to come near you he can be arrested straight away and possibly face a custodial sentance.

i know its hard to get the courage to leave and to make the jump to go into a refuge but long term i beleive this is always the best option.
they will be able to help resettle you in possibly a new town where your ex will have no idea where you are. if he cant find you he cant hurt you.

if you ( or anyone else on this thread) want to contact me for a chat or the benefits of my hard learned words of wisdom then by all means email me on fattiemumma at msn dot com