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Another problem neighbour - namecalling dh!

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TwoIfBySea · 25/04/2006 21:47

I really don't quite know what to make of this or what to do if anything. This is long but I'd appreciate some help.

We live across from a couple and their 2 dds, the couple did deal drugs but are now just users although I think they are getting methadone or whatever it is. Their dds are out from dawn until nearly midnight sometimes and yes, if anyone remembers, this is the one I contacted NSPCC about once due to their eldest dd and some concerns about her. Lots happened since then but now it would seem druggie-dad has a grudge against my dh.

Keep in mind my dh has never spoken to him, so much as glanced his way and neither have I. We have done our best over the past few years to completely keep out of it (apart from that one time 3 years ago) and none of the neighbours talk to them as they spend all day every day indoors, that is when they are not shouting at each other in the street. In fact all the neighbours avoid them.

However a few weeks ago, I think I mentioned this in another thread, dh's friend was visiting and had to park in the bays in front of their flat (4-in-a-block). He heard someone say the word pervert as he was getting out the car but didn't see who. Then when he was leaving dh walked him over to the car still talking and druggie's dd (age about 6) was leaning out the window and druggie says "Don't talk to him he's a pervert."

Dh and his friend ignored him and the girl whose flat the friend was parked directly infront of passed with her dog, druggie then said "Watch, he'll shag your dog."

Dh turned at this and said "Wtf did you say?"

The girl tried to diffuse the situation saying that druggie meant our dog (who was happily asleep) would try it on with hers. I know she was just trying to help as it gave dh's friend the chance to leave and dh came home shaking.

So I wrote to our housing association as I wanted what had happened logged, I really don't trust them. Nothing more happened until yesterday when dh was out cleaning the car. One of the neighbourhood kids was riding her bike when druggie's dd came out to play, most of the kids avoid them which is a shame but those girls have a habit of stealing and biting people! Anyway the nice neighbourhood girl (keep up with this I can't use names after all!) said hi to dh and druggie's dd said "My daddy says you're a cheeky pervert." !!!!!

Dh is so upset, understandably so, the other girl then said "D--- you're just nasty." But now dh thinks this family are starting some kind of whispering campaign about him. I have explained that the other neighbours wouldn't believe it coming from that source but he is getting himself in a right state over it. I've said I'll write another letter to the HA again just to have it on record. We have put in for a house swap but now dh is desperate to leave. I don't know what to do as these things can escalate regardless of truth.

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BadHair · 25/04/2006 21:52

Keep a record. It's slander and it's prosecutable. If you can record an incident on a mobile phone or cassette recorder, all the better, but don't be obvious about it.
But keep a log, and if other neighbours hear, see if they'd be prepared to corroborate what you say.

brimfull · 25/04/2006 21:57

How awful,especially for your dh.Could you contact citizens advice for some legal advice as it is slander and could become serious.

TwoIfBySea · 25/04/2006 22:22

The thing is proving it. The little girl is a known troublemaker so could just be repeating what she heard her father say.

I feel horrible saying that about such a young child but fromt he way she is being raised her and her sister have no chance.

Dh now doesn't want to leave the house!

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