should we go for number 3?

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I have been feeling broody for a while now .I have 2 children aged 6 and 2 already and felt that I would love to be pregnant one last time.
Dh has been very anti the idea, citing finances,space,our sex life(!) all as reasons not to have another.
This weekend we had another talk about it and he agreed that we could have another child.
Now he has come on board, I don't know what to do! I need to lose weight before i can get pregnant,sort the house out,learn to drive etc etc.
Now i have the opportunity-i feel scared.
However i can't believe that this is it and our family is complete.
I am in such a muddle.Any advice from anyone at all?

is it much harder/more expensive than 2?

my mateent for her third.. and landed up with triplets!

should have said Mate went..

I wouldn't really say it was harder, but it takes more organising, and the laundry is horrendous.

So far we haven't really noticed the extra expense as DS3 doesn't get many new clothes (lots of hand-me-downs) and we didn't have to buy a lot of new kit. But we are in the lucky position of not having to pay for childcare.

when dd was coming up to a year dh said to me "Are we all here yet?" I thought it was a very good question. shame I still don;t know the answer....

i'm a sahm so no childcare here either.still have pram/cot.crib/babybath lots and lots of clothes etc.
ds1 especially goes through shoes at a rate of knots.that might might be a worry!! 3 of them needing shoes at the same time!

oh god i'm being flip.shoes shmooz.it's putting 3 of them through uni that will be the problem.

changedmyname you're right I think about uni.
A colleague is expecting no 3 and another colleague was shocked when she found out - how will they afford it??? she gasped.
But actually, with 3, we haven't really noticed a big expense. Like dinosaure, ds2 is dressed entirely in hand-me-downs (from several sources - he has sooo many clothes) and of course we had car seat, toys, cot etc etc.
But yes, further ed is a worry. A long way off tho and we can plan. We have a different car (citroen picasso) but not as such bigger than our old Toyota. Only 3 bedrooms here but that's fine so far.
Pros of 3....oh, don't start me - the dynamic of the 3 is my fave. The older 2 have always played, also DD (middle one) and ds2 play, but now suddenly the 2 boys (nearly 7 and just 3) play top trumps together (!) and all sorts. It's fab, and there's always a playmate if I'm reading with one of them eg.
I also love all the cuddles, talking about "all my children", and as Cod once said, the way mums of fewer than 3 look at you as if you have achieved something amazing just getting to school in the am.
It has helped that ds2 is totally cool, cheerful, lively, energetic, good sleeper and eater and just a delight. But then maybe that's partly because we're better at the old parenting lark too, eh?

I'm facing the same question at the moment. DD is 3 and DS is 9 months and I don't feel that our family is complete either but 3! I'm worried about splitting myself 3 ways and not having enough time for each child. I was one of 3 and really enjoyed it but I do remember my mum being tired - alot

interesting CLary what you said about playmates when you are with one of them. Does it almost make it easier to spend one-one time with them than if you have two? I find that with two you have to make a real conscious effort to seperate them - to literally take one out, or have one grown up with one and the other with the other, iyswim, otherwise the second one just wants to get in on the act. In fact thinking about it dds get very little 1-1 time.

well thewoman, I think maybe it is easier to do 1-1 if there's a playmate.
OTOH it could just be that because I have 3 (and work ft) I make a real effort to spendat least some 1-1 time with each every day.
I don't know how old yr dds are, but for me it's ofte a case of doing homework etc.
In fact tonight before swim lesson I just had ds1 and dd, and had to get both doing some "work" (ds1's diary, dd a worksheet she had found) to get either to do it iyswim. So maybe it is better with 3. Hurrah!