Party dilemma!

[rickman]

Ds has been invited to a party on Saturday at a dry ski slope where they can do toboganning etc and he is very keen to go.

He has come out of school today though and said that the boy hosting the party has been shaking him and punching him in the chest and head. Ds still wants to go to the party, if the other boy will be nice to him.

I don't know what to do. Do I just forget about the thumping and send him anyay? Ring the mum (who seems very nice) and see what she says? Approach the teacher about the thumping?

Ds sits next to the other boy and the teacher has told me that ds is a calming influence, as the other boy is easily the most disruptive kid in the class. Unfortunately, this is typical behaviour and not a one off so I'm not sure what to do.

How old is your ds? Can you think of a "valid" reason you'd have to stay? Going on somewhere? Need to check out ski lessons? Car won't start so have to wait for a lift when you get there?

Has he hurt your ds before? If so I'd probably have a word with the teacher tomorrow.

Ds is nearly 6. I'll have to stay at the party anyway as you need to go on some of the things with them.

I don't think he has hit him before but apparently he has spat at him.

i think if your ds wants to go I would let him. as you are staying(if not I would) you can keep an eye on things and if the boy does it there speak to his mum. seems unfair for your son to miss out.

rickman obviously your ds isnt scared of him as such as he still wants to be in his company
i would let him go
and have a word with the teachers
your son may be a calming influence on this lad
but he is not a punchbag neither iykwim
good luck
xxx

agree with dsw - if he wants to go let him but definitely stay with him. Would also have a word with the teacher, this should not be allowed to happen in school and needs nipping in the bud before it escalates, and then your ds will be scared of him and you'd feel awful for not saying something at the start.