Joint B'day Parties - double the presents?

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My DS and a friends DD are having a joint 5th birthday party soon. We are inviting all the class but don't want parents to feel that they need to buy a present for both. Any ideas on how to word the invite to indicate this and how to do it fairly as there many more boys in the class than girls?

i wodul leave it and see what people do
if i were incited by baby zazsa id buy hom a present but not someone i didn tknow

invited

ie you get a presnt form whoever you invite

Hmmm - when my dd has been to joint parties (ie.invited jointly by "x" and "y") I have bought two presents - but have to say I limit them to about £5 each whereas I would spend about £7 or £8 normally !

Ds went to a few like this
They just invited half the class each...and you brought a present for whoever invited you

However - recently went to a joint party but didn't know it was joint until we got there - "x" invited my dd and his sister (who was the other party child" invited her friends - so they just got pressies from their own friends.

If both the party holders are in same class though I think you should invite jointly and expect pressies from each - but prob smaller pressies !

they are both in the same class at the same school (and born on the same day :) so it is the 21 kids in their class that they are jointly inviting that I am thinking about......

Been to a join party and only bought for the child who invited DD. We didn't know the other girl.

However, if it was a joint invitation, then I would buy two presents. I would be working on the fact that if they'd had seperate parties then we might have had to anyway.

im planning a big joint birthday in a few years , my 30th and ds1's 10th. am i mad??

would actually prefer to ask for no presents and instead if the parents wanted to they could put a donation towards a charity but ds looked at me like I was mad when I suggested it ...but he has too much as it is and the house it too small so seems sensible to me

Ds1 had his 5th party jointly with a girl in the class - we said girls buy for the girl and boys buy for ds1. A few did both but it was clear they didn't have to.

GDG - but there is 6 girls and 15 boys in the class - my ds would be the only one happy if it was boys buy for the boys!

I still reckon two cheapish pressies per guest !

when we had a joint party we said either buy for one of them (normally would be the one they were mostly friends with) or if you really want to buy for both then buy something v small

we then said amongst ourselves that if it looked like one child was getting way more than the other, we would even them out a bit (but only if e.g. it was like 15 presents for one and 3 for the other)

As all the kids notrmally would go to the parties and give gifts, i'd probably expect (as much as I do iykwim) a gift from each friend. However, if they ahd different friends- as in the case of my 5 and 6 year olds who shared a party earlier in the year- I'd only expect gifts from those who were in the same year.

DS ahs a joint party next week, as they are both in his class he takes two gifts.

Can I just say by 'expect' I'm not a gift grabber LOL. I honestly wouldn't notice if one was mising, or care.

Have you sent the invites out already? If each child invites 10.5 children, and the invites do not mention that it's a joint party, they will probably end up with c.10.5 presents each.

DS2 has twins in his class and that's what they do: they have a joint party, but they don't do joint invites, and they don't want joint presents, or double presents!