Bit morbid, but do any of you think this?

[jofeb04]

Im not religious, used to go to church when i was younger etc, but "grew" out of it. I had a civil wedding, not a church, and have not had my children christened (thinking of a naming ceromony).
However, I keep on thinking that if anything ever happened to my dc, I want them to be somewhere safe afterwards, also think this about my dh, or anyone in my family or friends really.
Why??

whats the relevance of a naming ceeremony to that>

nothing, just saying that im not religious, but keep on wishing that there is something there afterwards. IYSWIM

:o

Is your child young Jofe? I used to think quite morbid things when dd was little, I think it's the mothering instinct of protection kicking in.

yea, ds is 2, and dd is only 6months. Had very bad birth with dd, maybe that is what causes the feeling.
It only happens whem im feeling low i suppose as well.

I think you have answered your own question. Do you feel down a lot? It takes a while to get over a traumatic birth.

Yea I do Lucy, Im on Anti-d's and on waiting list for counselling!!

counselling will help i'm sure. There is a great thread on here about postnatal depression \link{http://mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=9&threadid=164312&stamp=060416114827\here}

In answer to your original post jofeb04, I don't think there's anything odd about wanting to believe there's some kind of 'afterlife' or 'place' where people we have loved could still exist, even if you don't have any religious beliefs. I find it just about impossible to really imagine being without my close family if something happened to them. I can't imagine them being 'gone'. Although when someone very close to me died some years ago, it was relatively easy to accept that he had 'gone' (incredibly painful of course, but not difficult to acknowledge).
It's a different thing if you feel worried that you are thinking about your dh or dc dying. It could be a sign that you are a bit down yourself. Or it could just be part of the vulnerability and anxiety that being a parent creates. If it is something that worries you, then as others have suggested, looking at it from the point of view of pnd could be helpful.